Let's start Fall off at Cedar Point

 Saturday my wonderful hubby woke up with a great idea that he would take Jay to Cedar Point. I was a little nervous for my little man. I love how excited Steve was about taking him he couldn't stop smiling. It was adorable how he kept saying Jay is going to love it as he was getting dressed. Jay was ecstatic about going he kissed me goodbye and out the door he went. They went with some friends and had a blast. They left at 9 in the morning  and got back at 1 the next morning. Steve won this big monkey for Jay that is at least 5 feet tall that takes up one of Jay's corners of his room it's huge. Steve was trying to win another stuff toy but let it go so this lady could win it. How sweet is that? One of the many reasons I love this man.They went in some hunted houses which I'm surprised that my babe went in. I remember the first hunted house we ever went in this guy with a scream costume comes running up to us Steve grabs this guy by the throat and pushes him against the wall. I was shock as I grab his hand. This poor guy rips off his mask saying hey hey. Me " Steve honey put him down please this is what we paid for."(LOL)

Steve "I'm sorry dude I'm sorry!" The man leaves I bet he won't scare anyone again. I felt really bad for him. Steve puts his hands on my hips and squeezes them so tight I had a bruise on each side. He tells me to hold his hands there until we are done as he puts his head down on my shoulder. I was laughing at him I even teased him about the big bad Marine being scared. I know he really wasn't he just doesn't do well with non threatening things that are suppose to be funny.  I have to say we well I like to do scary stuff. I drag him with me to watch scary movies anything that is scary. Justin and Steve were a mile a minute telling me about how much fun they had.  Hearing them talk back and forth was amazing to see how involved a father can be with his son.It was some good bonding time I love that. They are already talking about going back and dragging me with them. I think not I like my feet on the ground thank you. Been there done that at six flags with my honey won't do it again. I did have fun but roller coasters are not my thing.  Justin told me that daddy was really upset that this lady wouldn't let him go on one ride because something had to stop at his head it was silly. Jay" I guess his power balance is broke!" It's some band you can buy that helps your over all health. We all have one. Jay is a trip on how well he knows his daddy. Even today on the way to school Jay was still talking about it he even called grandma and grandpa to tell them all about it. He was really happy about this weekend. My men were both glowing with excitement. I love it!

Here is my little man getting ready! He is so cute I love you.

I love this saying because you never know what today will hold for you.

Break The Cycle

Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) evolved from the "Day of Unity" in October 1981 conceived by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. The intent was to connect advocates across the nation who were working to end violence against women and their children. The Day of Unity soon became an entire week devoted to a range of activities conducted at the local, state, and national levels.

http://dvam.vawnet.org/about/index.php



Purple ribbons are...

■made into pins and passed out at local events

■embroidered on t-shirts, hats and bags

■tied to the antennae of police cars

■hung on doors

■wrapped around trees

■draped over fences at murder scenes

In addition to the demonstration of support for victims and advocates, the display of purple ribbons throughout a community conveys a powerful message that there's no place for domestic violence in the homes.

In addition to the demonstration of support for victims and advocates, the display of purple ribbons throughout a community conveys a powerful message that there's no place for domestic violence in the homes.

The activities conducted were as varied and diverse as the program sponsors but had common themes: mourning those who have died because of domestic violence, celebrating those who have survived, and connecting those who work to end violence.

In October 1987, the first Domestic Violence Awareness Month was observed. That same year marks the initiation of the first national domestic violence toll-free hotline. In 1989 the U.S. Congress passed Public Law 101-112 designating October of that year as National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Such legislation has passed every year since with NCADV providing key leadership in this effort. Each year, the Day of Unity is celebrated the first Monday of Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

-- Adapted from the 1996 Domestic Violence Awareness Month Resource Manual of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.





Read the full proclamation by President Obama by accessing the link here:
http://www.whitehouse.gov/the-press-office/2010/10/01/presidential-proclamation-national-domestic-violence-awareness-month

SUPPORT  THIS OCTOBER BY WEARING PURPLE

Take a look at these links

http://www.fundraisingforacause.com/

http://www.purpleribbonproject.com/

http://www.bumperstickermagnet.com/

I came across this on yahoo I don't know who it's by but this is written very beautiful.

Dolphin Tale

I took my son to go see this wonderful movie two days ago. We cried it was a happy cry I guess. This movie shows that family is really only what you make it. FAMILY IS FOREVER!  There is a scene in the movie where a lady drove eight hours with her daughter to see the Dolphin with no Tale no big deal right until she wheels her out in a wheelchair. That was the start of the water works for me. I won't tell you a lot of the movie you should take your family to watch it.
It will bring you joy in knowing that Hope is all you really need in life. My son told me that he will never give up on his family. I love the fact that he will never give up. It's from all that good parenting skills Steve and I have. We have raised a wonderful little boy together so far. There are many more years to come. Justin will be able to swim with dolphins very soon in the coming months. I can't wait to watch his face light up. I love watching movies with him but he is a talker. Mom watch this or the part where winter might not make it. He was really upset telling the people in the movie they can't do that. Then asking me "Can they do that mom and why would they?"
This is a all around family movie to see together. I'm not a big fan of watching movies in 3D. I hate the glasses they give you. Next time I'm bringing a bottle of water with me instead of paying $3.50 for a $1.00 bottle of water. Insane I will add not that I care but prices lately are getting out of hand. It's inspiring to see how so little can make a little boy happy. I know many children only have one parent due to many circumstances. I will applauded the aunts,cousins and family friends who stand up to help out. Children need to know they are loved.

Abortion/A woman's right

Hi Mommy,


I'm your baby. You don't know me yet, I'm only a few weeks old. You're going to find out about me soon, though. I promise. Let me tell you some things about me. My name is John, and I've got beautiful brown eyes & black hair. Well, I don't have it yet, but I will when I'm born. I'm going to be your only child, and you will call me your one & only. I'm going to grow up without a daddy m...ostly, but we have each other. We will help each other, & love each other. I want to be a doctor when I grow up.

You found out about me today, Mommy! You were so excited, you couldn't wait to tell everyone. All you could do all day was smile, & life was perfect. You have a beautiful smile, Mommy. It will be the first face I will see in my life, & it will be the best thing I will see in my life. I know it already. Today was the day you told Daddy. You were so excited to tell him about me! He wasn't happy, Mommy. He kind of got angry. I don't think that you noticed, but he did. He started to talk about something called wedlock, & money, bills & stuff. I don't think I understand yet. You were still happy, though. So it was okay. Then he did something scary, Mommy. He hit you. I could feel you fall backward, & your hands flying up to protect me. I was okay... but I was very sad for you. You were crying then, Mommy. That's a sound I don't like. It doesn't make me feel good. It made me cry, too. He said sorry after, & he hugged you again. You forgave him Mommy, but I'm not sure if I do. It wasn't right. You say he loves you... why would he hurt you? I don't like it, Mommy.

Finally, you can see me! Your stomach is a little bit bigger, & you're so proud of me! You went out with your mommy to buy new clothes, and you were so so so happy. You sing to me, too. You have the most beautiful voice in the whole wide world. When you sing is when I'm happiest. You talk to me, & I feel safe. So safe. You just wait & see, Mommy. When I am born I will be perfect just for you. I will make you proud, and I will love you with all of my heart.

I can move my hands & feet now, Mommy. I do it because you put your hands on your belly to feel me, and I giggle. You giggle, too. I love you, Mommy.

Daddy came to see you today, Mommy. I got really scared. He was acting funny & he wasn't talking right. He said he didn't want you. I don't know why, but that's what he said. He hit you again. I got angry, Mommy. When I grow up I promise I won't let you get hurt! I promise to protect you. Daddy is bad. I don't care if you think that he is a good person, I think he's bad. But he hit you, and he said he didn't want us. He doesn't like me. Why doesn't he like me, Mommy?

You didn't talk to me tonight, Mommy. Is everything okay?

It's been three days since you saw Daddy. You haven't talked to me or touched me or anything since that. Don't you still love me, Mommy? I still love you. I think you feel sad. The only time I feel you is when you sleep. You sleep funny, kind of curled up on your side. You hug me with your arms, & I feel safe & warm again. Why don't you do that when you're awake, any more?

I'm 21 weeks old today, Mommy. Aren't you proud of me? We're going somewhere today, and it's somewhere new. I'm excited. It looks like a hospital, too. I want to be a doctor when I grow up, Mommy. Did I tell you that? I hope you're as excited as I am. I can't wait.

Mommy, I'm getting scared. Your heart is still beating, but I don't know what you are thinking. The doctor is talking to you. I think something's going to happen soon. I'm really, really, really scared, Mommy. Please tell me you love me. Then I will feel safe again. I love you!

Mommy, what are they doing to me!? It hurts! Please make them stop! It feels bad! Please, Mommy, please, please help me! Make them stop!

Don't worry Mommy, I'm safe. I'm in heaven with the angels now. They told me what you did, & they said it's called an abortion.
Why, Mommy? Why did you do it? Don't you love me any more? Why did you get rid of me? I'm really, really, really sorry if I did something wrong, Mommy. I love you, Mommy! I love you with all of my heart. Why don't you love me? What did I do to deserve what they did to me? I want to live, Mommy! Please! It really, really hurts to see you not care about me, & not talk to me. Didn't I love you enough? Please say you will keep me, Mommy! I want to live smile & watch the clouds & see your face & grow up & be a doctor. I don't want to be here, I want you to love me again! I'm really, really, really sorry if I did something wrong. I love you!
I love you, Mommy.
Every abortion is just
One more heart that was stopped.
Two more eyes that will never see.
Two more hands that will never touch.
Two more legs that will never run.
One more mouth that will never speak.

I came across this yesterday first I would like to say this is a very sad letter.  I'm not for or against abortion. I say this because I believe in a woman's right to chose if she wants to have a baby or not. It's her body she goes though all the changes for nine months. She has to deal with the mental issues there may be in whatever her case is. I'm not saying this should be a form of birth control no never. There should be a limit to one abortion in the extreme case of rape, incest or if someway she can't carry it due to her health. I know pro-life people would think otherwise. I hate to bust their bubble all women can't deal with those issues with help or without it. Yes, the woman could give the baby up to a couple who wants a baby. Yes, I agree to that also but if you were to put yourself in another woman's shoes you may not be able to stay pro-life. The pain of going though a rape is very unbearable for some then having to make a choice about the life that is growing inside of you. I know what I went though being pregnant I know all my thoughts that ran though my head. I'm thankful that the father of my two boys was able to step up and be a man. I had a very good support system from him who later asked for my hand in marriage. Being married for seven years to the father of my children has been the best decision I have ever made. I'm sad to say a lot of women don’t have the man to help nor the support system they need from family and friends. You don't need a man to raise a child I know plenty of single mothers who have done a great job with their children. It all comes down to the woman to be strong and independent.  As for the letter above Domestic Violence is something most people don't understand. This letter could have been a story on the news of the father killing the baby and mother. In fact I am friends with a lady who was abusive by her husband for many years. The day that was suppose to be a happy day to bring a child in the world turned out to be her worst nightmare. He didn't let her go to the hospital right away he decide to bet her up. She got sick while she was in labor. As she was hanging over the toilet her husband was kicking her in the belly and tried to drown her in the toilet. When he allowed her to go to the hospital between the nurses coming in and out he was punching her in the belly and chest. His excuse was that he didn't want another man looking at her private parts. I asked her why she didn't say something to the doctor while she was there. Turned out the husband never left her side she never got the chance to. I think child abuse cases have a lot to due to the fact that a lot of women where not able to get an abortion. If you were a victim of incest or rape can you imagine all the hate that can build up inside a person only to have them let it out on those poor innocent children? I think pro-life people need to back off and let the person chose the woman. I give credit to the women who can overcome what happen to them to be able to raise a happy child. Sadly there is not that many around. Abortion should be handle case by case. Yes, it is very sad to end a life GOD gave you but in some cases what do you think is the best for the lady above and my friend. Keep in mind a little pink piece of paper doesn't do much for a woman who is running for her life. In most cases if it goes to court the father gets the kids while the judge sits up on chair and says JUST BECAUSE HE IS MEAN TO YOU DOESN'T MEAN HE WILL BE MEAN TO THE CHILDREN. They are always wrong!!!! A man that hits never changes never cares about what he has done. Let's not forget the pregnant women murder. Their last breath is taken by a boyfriend or husband look it up.

Picture of the year

 
A picture began circulating in November. It should be "The Picture of the Year,"... or perhaps, "Picture of the Decade." It won't be. In fact, unless you obtained a copy of the U.S. paper which published it, you probably would never have seen it.




The picture is that of a 21-week-old unborn baby named Samuel Alexander Armas, who is being operated on by surgeon named Joseph Bruner. The baby was diagnosed with spina bifida and would not survive if removed from his mother's womb. Little Samuel's mother, Julie Armas, is an obstetrics nurse in Atlanta. She knew of Dr. Bruner's remarkable surgical procedure. Practicing at Vanderbilt University Medical Center in Nashville, he performs these special operations while the baby is still in the womb.



During the procedure, the doctor removes the uterus via C-section and makes a small incision to operate on the baby. As Dr. Bruner completed the surgery on Samuel, the little guy reached his tiny, but fully developed hand through the incision and firmly grasped the surgeon's finger. Dr. Bruner was reported as saying that when his finger was grasped, it was the most emotional moment of his life, and that for an instant during the procedure he was just frozen, totally immobile.



The photograph captures this amazing event with perfect clarity. The editors titled the picture, "Hand of Hope." The text explaining the picture begins, "The tiny hand of 21-week-old fetus Samuel Alexander Armas emerges from the mother's uterus to grasp the finger of Dr. Joseph Bruner as if thanking the doctor for the gift of life."



Little Samuel's mother said they "wept for days" when they saw the picture. She said, "The photo reminds us pregnancy isn't about disability or an illness, it's about a little person" Samuel was born in perfect health, the operation 100 percent successful. Now see the actual picture, and it is awesome...incredible....and hey, pass it on! The world needs to see this one!
 
I open my Fb page today to find this on my wall. I think this picture is amazing to see. It's the baby way of saying thank's doc for helping me.

The Lion King - Hula

What a classic movie from my childhood. I took Justin to the movies this past weekend while my hubby stayed home with the baby. He won't sit for long. I love how they released this movie in theaters. I hope they do it for more Disney movies. I don't mind paying ten dollars a ticket to take my son to see a movie from my childhood. It was packed from front to back. Thanks to my little sis I know this movie by heart. I can't believe I never caught what Timon said until now. Wow, the stuff they put in kids movies. I guess it's not bad considering what spongebob does which I'm happy to say Justin has been spongebob free for a week.



This is one of my favorites parts in the movie. Justins loves it too. We joked about it on the way home. I even laugh harder when he tried to tell his daddy about the part he liked. It worked out that my hubby knew what he was talking about. Jay liked to watch this when he was little. It was a flip between this and nemo. Another all time favorite we seen for the first time as a family. The only part that I hate in this movie is where Mufasa dies. I cry every time Justin gave me a big hug in the theater after it happen. I guess it's Disney way of showing children death because in every movie someone dies. I love how this movie shows a father and son relationship a healthy one at that. If you haven't seen this movie you should go see it. Justin has been bugging me to take him to see that new movie Dolphin Tale. He is the biggest animal lover I know. He wants to go see some dolphins and swim with them. I think his daddy and I might be able to make that happen sooner then what we thought with some big decisions coming up. I just hope we are around for the holidays. Justin will love it. I can't wait to take him to this movie tonight.

Christopher walking to me

My baby boy is walking to me. Three months ago he started walking to the bed from the dresser in our bedroom. I'm so proud of him look at him go. He will be one next month I can't believe this time last year I was counting down the days before he appeared on the 13th. I remember it like it was yesterday. Steve really came though for me making all the important calls to our family. He took pictures like a crazy man. I still remember the permanent smile my little man and Steve had on their face when they saw Christopher. Mommy,Daddy and big brother Justin love you very much Popsicle.

Our trip to New york and New Jersey

    New Jersey Fireworks

We are planning our next trip to Florida. I was looking back at our last trip out of town. Here are the fireworks from NJ. They were great I can't wait to travel there again. Justin gets a kick out of it. I'm glad we are able to do things like this with our children.

The fine lady herself.

Downtown Jay with Spongebob.

This is at the American Museum of Natural History which took us five hours to get though and still had half of the first floor to finish. We would have finished it if they weren't closing early for the 4th of July. We paid  $25 for all of us to get in. They base it off donations. I thought that was pretty neat it happen to be the cheapest thing we did the whole trip.

Waiting for the train Justin and I played lets count how many rats we can see. It was really gross those rats were the size of a small cat.

The m&m store which was my favorite. Look at all those !

Things you must know before you go to New York

1. If you have small kids make them walk or get a baby sling for them. It's not a stroller friendly place.

2. Watch out for cabs they will run you over.

3.The cost for food is double what it is here so take extra.

4. Pay for your hotel before hand. We did which was less stress on us.

5. Plan out what you want to do. There are many things to do as we found out.

6. Take the subway don't walk five mile from Battery park. Like we did your legs and butt cheeks will hurt.

7. You will wait in line for everything so bring a book to read.

8. If you drive you can get there by walking a lot faster then sitting in traffic.

9. Have fun don't get sucked into the fast lane when you are there.

10. It stinks in New York. Trash is always on the side of the streets. Curb your dog. Don't wear heels.

Heart

My wonderful hubby was able to get a babysitter last night to take his lovely beautiful wife me to the movies. We went and seen the movie Warrior. I seen previews for this and Martial Arts has been consent in my life since I was younger. They touch on a very touchy subject that has shaped who I am today.  This is a very hard movie to watch. I think it will do very well in the box office. It really shows that Life is really only what you make it no matter how you grew up or what you went though in your past. You can dwell on your past and never let go. On the other hand you can just let it be. You will never forget and in most cases never forgive but let it go. When you chose that then you can really be at peace with yourself.There comes a time and place where you chose the path your life will take. Family is not just defined by blood but who stands by you. Family is only what you make it.  I cried and laugh though this whole movie. I can say both of us tear up many times through this two hour movie. Our past was not an easy one to live though yet we understand it. We made a choice to move on with the people who really care about us people who make us happy. This movie makes you take a step back to look at your life. I did taking a second to talk about it afterwards with my hubby.  We share the same views on how we took a stand to make our life better for us. We left people behind who really meant nothing to us when we thought about it. I’m grateful we meet I think we meet at a time in out lives when we needed a friend more than anything.  Lucky for us we fell in love and the rest is history. If you haven’t seen this movie you should. I think many will love it. This movie shows heart.

On another note for today my heart is with everyone who lost loved ones today. To that girl I will never know from high school. I hope you are okay today. I explain to my eight year old why today was a special day. I had to explain this is why Daddy went to war. My heart goes out to everyone who lost loved ones on this day America will never forget.

http://lifeisonlywhatyoumakeit.blogspot.com/2011/08/tears-in-new-york.html

http://news.yahoo.com/behind-the-scenes-look-at-9-11-memorial.html

http://news.yahoo.com/9-11-video-timeline-how-the-day-unfolded.html

9/11 at 8:46 We Pause to Remember

We will always remember today. I was in school when this happen. It changed my life along with millions of Americans all over.

This picture I took off the Internet.

This picture I was looking at thinking there was something missing.  I took this picture on our family trip to New York back in July. We took Justin for his 8th Birthday present. We were in New Jersey waiting for the fireworks to begin. New York is amazing place to go. I hope to go back in a year or two to see the 9/11 memorial. It breaks my heart thinking about this day. I can't seem to get that girl from high school I ran into out of my head. Sadly she lost her parents on that day.

This is another picture of the city as the sun was going down.



Some facts about the Twin Towers

1. The idea for a World Trade Center in New York dates back to 1946, but for various reasons, political and otherwise, active planning didn't begin until the 1960s. By 1967, the Port Authority (responsible for building the towers) had awarded $74 million in steel contracts, and construction was soon underway. Photo: Archive Photos/Getty Images

2. The topping-out ceremonies for the North and South towers took place, respectively, in 1970 and 1971. By the time the towers were completed, total construction costs for the project had ballooned to $900 million. Photo: Henry Groskinsky/Time & Life Pictures/Getty Images



http://news.yahoo.com/the-evolution-of-the-9-11-conspiracy-theories.html

http://lifeisonlywhatyoumakeit.blogspot.com/2011/08/tears-in-new-york.html

http://news.yahoo.com/photos/world-trade-center-attack-1309560695-slideshow/

http://news.yahoo.com/photos/building-the-twin-towers-1313011023-slideshow/

Domestic violence

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This is not funny and it's not a joke. I can't believe they seem to think so.Many women and men go though this rich, poor,black,and white. Not enough is done to keep this from happening today. The laws need to change.

Look at me

I'm 8 months here at my baby shower for at the time "No Name Needham". Look at that belly I was huge. I miss my belly. I miss Steve rubbing it daily. What am I talking about that he still does. It's his favorite part on my body one of them anyways. It's  too funny he loves to cuddle with me and lay his head on my belly. He loves my belly with babies or no babies.
There we are in July I'm at 142. Not bad having my second baby nine months before.

 at 142

                                                                                                                                                                            

139 lbs

Me today flat as can be. I 'm lucky I lost all my baby weight the first month thanks to nursing. I'm really happy I have my old body back. I thought after a c-section it would never go back to normal. My hubby made me rest after I had Christopher. He wouldn't let me do anything. He was Mr. Mom for at least 18 weeks or so. Thank you babe for that.I however have one complaint my chest is gone.  I guess that is okay. I never did like those twin girls sitting on my chest. Anyone who needs big bras I have them. I lost it once before after I stop nursing Jay it will come back. Hitting the gym and pumping that iron will do the trick. I miss having that bonding time with the boys. I just stopped nursing Christopher 3 weeks ago due to having to take some medicine for my leg. He is doing better then what we thought he would do with the big change from boob to bottle. Now he has four teeth in I'm glad I didn't get bit by him like I did with Jay. I thought that kid was going to rip it off.  I love my body. I love the way I feel. I love that my hubby loves my body anyway it is. Having Steve be supportive where he is cheering me on to eat right as he is eating a burger kills me sometimes. I love that he doesn't pressure me to be skinny. He loves me just the way I am. Working out everyday and eating right has done my body very GOOD!

One of our last Trips before school starts

This past five days with my family has been a blast. We went to go see my dad. I love seeing him but the drive is really long a 7 1/2 hour trip turns into a 9 hour trip with all the stopping we have to do with the kids.  Last night on our way back home Justin would cough or sneeze and Christopher would just giggle out of control. He thought it was the funniest thing ever. I couldn't help but laugh. It was really cute.

Christopher trying to walk to daddy.

 Man oh Man taking the time to relax and get away from the city was nice. Justin had to fight the dog for a frog. She was not giving up her toy she found.  You had to be there to see it. Jay ended up putting the frog on steroids in the garden. The thing was huge!

We found a water fall on the side of the road. Here is Justin and Steve. Justin  had a blast because his Daddy had to carry him down to it.

 His daddy was joking that he was going to put Jay in the fall. He was freaking out. Steve said it was cold in the cave that it droped about ten degrees in there.

Back up to the Truck. I swear they are two peas in a pod. I can tell Jay is getting older. He stays up on the trip now before he would sleep the whole time. My little man is going to be in the 3rd grade already. I'm really happy but sad at the same time. Kids are little only for a short time. I remember going to the out house races when he was 3 years old.  That seems like it was a lifetime ago. I love that we find time to take family trips. It's the little things that matter the most in our life like this. It makes me happy to have the chance to watch my children grow. Our children have both of their parents to share these wonderful times with.

We also stopped by the lake and took a dip. I love watching Christopher with excitment when he sees something new like sand. He ate a hand full of it. He didn't seem to mind it. I had to rinse out his mouth three different times in the water. My boys love the water. Justin buried his self in the sand with our help of course. I pushed him in the water to get all the sand off of him. I sliped in the water myself well up to my knees. That water is cold as hell. To think when I was Jay's age I too swam in it. Crazy I know but the boys loved it.

My dad's cat caught a mouse on the deck it must of got in from outside. She almost threw it on my dad's friends. He so acted like a girl with that one feet up and all. My wonderful hubby got the mouse out of her mouth when it escaped. Steve was chasing the mouse and caught it by the tail. He is walking though the house to the back door telling me not to scream. Justin and I where at the table playing uno.  A quick hand off to my dad and out the door and down the road the little mouse went. It's a no kill zone here. I can't wait to go back in October. I'm not looking forward to the snow. Steve and Jay love the snow up there. You can jump in and disappear.  I was able to get my second book I'm working on almost complete. The title is A Child well that is what I'm thinking so far. It's about kids, blended families , marriage, love and hate. I have a lot of friends who are going though a lot right now with these subjects. I seem to have a lot to say about it. We will see what happens with this book. I guess a wise woman pushed me to write this book. With her I don't know if it would have ever happen. Recent events enlighted me to these touchy subjects mothers have with the men they choose to have kids with. A few years of research can go a long way especially when I didn't have to do much work when it was right in front of me the whole time. Putting it all together is going to be a ticky one. The long drive was very helpful. Have a great day my wonderful readers. I hope your summer was as good as mind. It's almost over but there are plenty of things to still do.

Letter's

This was an email sent to me. It's a must read.

A husband wrote the following letter for his wife and left it on the


Dining room table:
To My Dear Wife,

You will surely understand that I have certain needs that you, being 54

years old, can no longer satisfy. I am very happy with you, and I value

you as a good wife. Therefore, after reading this letter I hope you will

not wrongly interpret the fact that I will be spending the evening with my

18-year-old secretary at the Comfort Inn Hotel.
Please don't be upset - I shall be back home before midnight.'

WIFE`S LETTER
'To My Dear Husband,
I received your letter and thank you for your honesty about my being 54

years old. I would like to take this opportunity to remind you that you

are also 54 years old. As you know, I am a math teacher at our local

college. I would like to inform you that while you're at the Comfort Inn,

I will be at the Hotel Fiesta with Michael, one of my students, who is also the

Assistant tennis coach. He is young, virile, and like your secretary, he

is 18 years old.

As a successful businessman with an excellent knowledge of math, you

will understand that we are in the same situation, although with one

small difference; 18 goes into 54 a lot more times than 54 goes into 18.



Therefore I will not be home until sometime tomorrow.'

Marriage

"What I found is divorce just can't be an option," Will told Ellen at the time. "It's really that simple. And I think that's the problem with L.A. - there are so many options. So a huge part of the success for [Jada] and I is that we just removed the other options."


This is what Will told Ellen and I have to say I’m a firm believer that it is not an option for Steve and I ever no matter what happens. We will work though it no matter what it takes. I just watched Look Who’s Talking while I clean the house for the night. Steve is just like John Travolta in the movie.

I can’t count how many times I have came home to see the house a mess because he was playing with Jay. Steve is really silly when it comes to the kids. What am I saying? Steve is a big kid his self. I love it. Steve may not be able to dance God love him. It's real funny to see him try to bust a move with Jay. Now Christopher is getting to know his daddy just like Jay. I picked a great man to have kids with.http://www.accesshollywood.com/jada-pinkett-smiths-secret-to-marital-success_video_843781




To have a successful marriage you have to have the following. Honesty is the number one thing I have found to be at the top of our list for each other. If you don't have that then it's over before it starts.
Intelligence and Confidence in each other goes a long way. I support my man and he supports me. Even if I think some of Steve's ideas or business ventures are a little out there at times. A Good Sense of Humor is a big key to life. You have to be able to laugh at yourself, others just in general at things. It's like crying over spilled milk. It's silly life is too short to be serious all the time. Steve and I have very good work ethics. We have worked for everything we have. We are very family oriented people. That was one thing that bought us together in the first place. Our families may not be perfect but we found a way to make it work. We found each other when it meant the most to us. I'm thankful to add we are very mentally stable people. It helps when you are both sane in the marriage. Instead of dealing with a crazy person all the time. Even worst when you are the only one who is trying to make it work. I know many people where being mentally stable is the last thing on their list of things of doing. I have found that these people are very selfish in wanting only what they want. That's no way to live with another person you care about. Steve and I have the ability to listen to each other. That's where our friendship comes in. That was built before we said I DO. We have each others best interests at heart. It's always and forever with us till the end. I can't picture my life without Steve. I know Steve feels the same. I remember when he wasn't a big talker when we met. I could always tell what he was thinking by looking into his eyes. I think he is the only man who likes to cuddle with me beside my Jay man. I have to say we do that very often. I have never met someone who is just as protective as I am about our loved ones. I was very sick back in 2008 when a nurse of all people told Steve to stop asking questions to just be a husband and go to the waiting room. I was in a lot of pain but still managed to hold his hand to calm him down from exploding. I could see the steam come out of his ears. Steve has a very soft voice when it comes to Jay. Our poor baby needed to give blood when he was two. Of course my feelings were hurt when all he wanted was his Daddy. Steve made it all better for him on top of taking him to get ice cream. I don't know how Steve does what he does when it comes to his family. He always makes us his number one in his life. I'm the sameway I will fight to the death to protect my loved ones. We are both very passionate people who have a very stubborn streak in us. If we think we are right or wrong we will fight to prove our point. It's hard to be mad at that man when he is being groofy when I'm trying to be mad.  I love that about Steve he never gives up especially on us. We both have very big ambitions about life and love. It's great that we see each other for who we really are inside and out. We don't have to hide it like most do. Steve and I just celebrated 7 years together this month. We take care of each other not to mention the wiliness to experiment in bed to keep it hot and spicy. It's never the samething with us. It may be a quickie sometimes in the car or on the deck. I think married couples have to find time for themselves to make it work. Sex may not be everything in a marriage but it seals the bond you share with your loved one. Steve will always have my unconditional love, support and happiness.  We have never taken each other for granted. I almost forgot you have to be able to share everything with your partner the good, bad and ugly. Love is such an amazing thing. True love is something to hold on tight to. We are each other soul mates. This is what makes us work. What about you?



This is my Happiness in life. No one can take that away from us. Why you may ask?  I don't give that kind of power to anyone!

Have a great night my readers I have a favorite quote from Shakespeare "To thine own self be true" I have lived by this my whole life now it will be a tatto on my ribs.

My Boys

Let me start off by saying Justin won first place in Cubannapolis today!All the cub scouts did great. Poor Zack fell but he still did great. Hang in there Zack you always have next year babe. The Cubannapolis is where all the boys make a car out of a box. They decorate it however they want. Once it starts they have to go around the track three times. They have to make a pit stop where it involves changing the tires(shoes) turning the socks inside out and putting the shoes back on. They have to fuel up with bug juice( cool-aid). They have to clean off the windshield(glasses). Then off they go. You can do it all at once or split it up in three. We always do it on the first run. Justin you were great out there Mommy and daddy are really proud of you. You have done exceptional in Cub Scouts. Let the new year bring just as much fun.

Christopher is a hand full for us. He is trying his little hardest to walk. He stands there for a minute takes a step then falls. He is already climbing on everything like his crib,high chair and his bike.

He is a wiggle worm anytime someone holds him. He likes to climb up on you. I love that he lights up when his big brother walks in the room. He is already at Justin's feet getting into his stuff. He knows how to play mommy and daddy with his fake cry. It's really adorable we can't help but pick him up. We are really glad he now sleeps in his crib like a big boy. That leaves mommy and daddy some needed alone time to cuddle. I love that part. I have to say I do miss him sleeping in bed with us cuddle up to me then his daddy. Steve and I are planning on having his 1st Birthday/ Halloween party in October. Not sure of the date yet but it will be posted on FB for you guys. They may drive me crazy. They may act stubborn like their Dad. My house never stays clean for too long. Food may be all over the walls thanks to my Popsicle. Dinner time has never been entertaining like it has been lately. Finding time to work and go to the gym is a challenge. I'm a proud mommy of two. I wouldn't have it any other way. I love my boys they are the air I breathe.

Summer Fun

I love going on my boat. Steve kind of freaked me out with all the turns he did while Jay was tubing. I guess that is the mom side coming out. We had to wait out the storm that we ran into in the hot hole. Thank god it didn't come see us it stayed on the other side. Summer has been great my brother came out with us. He even got on the tube with Jay. He fell off a dozen times. Jay looks like popcorn out there bouncing all over the place. We stopped to swim.

I love this picture of us. Jay was under water somewhere.

 In the bottom picture I'm tossing Jay in the water. He loves it.

Get ready guys hold on tight!

My hubby the driver. I love you babe next time not so fast I know it was only 30 but still. Thanks for your skills we made it back across the river with all the waves. I thought I was going to have a heart attack while Jay is yelling go faster. I'm not cut out for this danger. I'm getting old I tell you before not a problem. I might have a glass of wine next time to calm my nerves.I had to hold on to Christopher before he flew out of the boat with all the waves we hit. However I'm glad we didn't get stuck in the storm like Steve and Adam did. They told me the waves were clearly over the boat. Steve was getting soaked driving back a few days before. Summer is almost over I can't wait to fill the rest of our days going back out. I might even hit the tube up. You to Cassie you have to do it if I'm going.   Do you hear that babe? You better not scare me. lol A trip to see my daddy then green field village even a bonfire is in store for us.