Sunday, September 29

Places you shouldn't take a baby

I took these off cafe mom I want to debate some and add to the list.
  1. The spa -- How can anyone enjoy a pedicure with a baby in her lap?
  2. Upscale restaurants -- There are plenty of family-friendly joints where you can take your tot out to eat. Let the rest of us enjoy date nights, for crying out loud. (No pun intended.)
  3. Doctor's office -- Other than the OBGYN or pediatrician, please leave your baby at home. I'm already sick and I don't need to sit in the waiting room worrying that I'm going to infect your infant.
  4. The movies -- You know that "don't make noise and be courteous to others during the show" thing? Yeah, that applies to your baby too.
  5. Concerts -- This is one I just don't understand. I want to enjoy whatever music is being played instead of listening to your baby. And guess what? Your baby's ears hate loud music anyway.
  6. Zumba -- No, I'm not kidding. I've seen moms bring their babies to my local Zumba class and just leave them in the car seat while they shake it. So not cool.                                                                       
Let's start with number 1 I don't go to the spa so I really can't say. I would imagine that women go there to relax and don't want to hear a screaming baby. As far as number 2 goes the hubby and I have taken the kids to every restaurant we can think of. My children are good as far as that part goes. I have been in many restaurants where the parents ignore their child that is screaming their head off. Yes, I have said something to them it's rude to the child and everyone else. # 3 I have two boys I don't know about you but that is one place I would take them just not in the room when the doctor is looking at my women parts. That leads to many questions I made that mistake when Justin was three. # 4 I agree with the writer unless it's a kid's movie. If you have been in a movie theater it's loud. I don't think a child under 1 should ever be in a theater after 9. Movies are a little on the pricey side for a family of four it's almost $50.00 dollars for tickets and another $30.00 for  the concession stand. Then again people these days don't have any common sense that a loud theater may be the reason your child is uncomfortable. #5 Concerts same goes for the movies it's loud! Think about it your child's  has little ears that goes for your pet dog too. #6 My Zumba class is loud as hell my ten year old like to take the class with me as far as little ones goes I wouldn't do it. 
 Here are a few I would add on a golf cart riding down the street. No joke I have seen a baby being held in the lap of the driver those suckers fly! A bar for sure again this goes with not a lot of people have common sense these days. It's wrong if you can't find a babysitter stay at home your ass doesn't need to drink. Put that money away for food. My kids are with me 24/7 they are my life I put them first. I think a lot of parents put the needs of their child last. My whole world revolves around mind and my needs are last to come.  That's called being a good parent. If you have any places you would like to add please do so. 

Friday, September 27

Is it a woman's right to choose?


Mark Ruffalo writes:
I am a man. I could say this has nothing to do with me. Except I have two daughters and I have a mother who was forced to illegally have an abortion in her state where abortion was illegal when she was a very young woman. It cost $600 cash. It was a traumatizing thing for her. It was shameful and sleazy and demeaning. When I heard the story I was aghast by the lowliness of a society that would make a woman do that. I could not understand its lack of humanity; today is no different.
What happened to my mother was a relic of an America that was not free nor equal nor very kind. My mother’s illegal abortion marked a time in America that we have worked long and hard to leave behind. It was a time when women were seen as second rate citizens who were not smart enough, nor responsible enough, nor capable enough to make decisions about their lives. It was a time that deserved to be left behind, and leave it behind we did, or so it seemed. We made abortion and a woman’s ability to be her own master a right. That right was codified into law. That law was the law of the land for decades.
My own mother fought to make herself more than a possession; she lived her life as a mother who chose when she would have children, and a wife who could earn a living if she so chose. I want my daughters to enjoy that same choice. I don’t want to turn back the hands of time to when women shuttled across state lines in the thick of night to resolve an unwanted pregnancy, in a cheap hotel room just south of the state line.  Where a transaction of $600 cash becomes the worth of a young woman’s life.
So that is why I am lending my voice to you and your movement today. Because I actually trust the women I know.  I trust them with their choices, I trust them with their bodies and I trust them with their children.  I trust that they are decent enough and wise enough and worthy enough to carry the right of Abortion and not be forced to criminally exercise that Right at the risk of death or jail time.
 My cousin's husband posted this on Facebook today which had me thinking he is always posting something every other day about how it is wrong to abort a child. I don't support it or agree with it what I do agree with is a woman's right to choose. I know this is a touchy subject to a lot of people. Some have had to think about it while others went ahead with it. Some women have been rape by men and forced to have a child then are known to have abused that child because of it. It is a known fact that if she had the money she would have never had the child. You also can find that in abuse relationships the abuser kills his girlfriend or wife because of the child. No matter who the woman is your wife,sister,mother, girlfriend or friend her body will change. Her thoughts will change along with her body that will become bigger fatter to custom the life that has now taken over her body. It's more of an alien that grows inside of her for nine months. A pregnant woman needs support emotionally, physically and financially. A woman who has a support system may have a good pregnancy. When that test windows appears with two lines or a plus sign emotions over take your body and mind. Good thoughts or bad doesn't matter fear sinks. Your life will change forever. I don't think a man should voice his opinion or demand that a woman should or shouldn't have a baby. He doesn't have to put his body through anything. 
  I have seen him post this picture on Facebook a dozen times. I asked him Facebook I hope it never happens "If your wife was rape and you both found out later that she was pregnant would you still want her to have the baby?"

As a woman of two beautiful boys knowing what my body went through for nine months what my mental state during both pregnancies were very different.My husband and I were not together when I was pregnant with our first son. It was complicated with both of us. We were pulled in many different directions with the military,our family, friends other people we were involved with. I didn't have support while I was pregnant with my son. I was scared to be a single mother at 20. The ladies I worked with were and still are my family. They helped me when no one else would. I was prepared for a child I had my own apartment a job. I just wasn't prepared for my life to change. My hubby and  I did however made it work one day at a time. It was hard going through that with my son not knowing where we stood as a family. I almost did have an abortion for the simple fact that I wasn't ready to be a mother. The father and I weren't together it was a mentally struggle for both of us coming from abusive homes that were very unstable. We were not ready at all. I don't think I would have had my son if my family and the father(my hubby now)at time didn't pressure me to have a child. There was so much going on at the time it was a little insane to think that was the only way out.  Don't get me wrong I love my son to death I would do and have given him the world. I wouldn't change it for anything now. It took me up until my second son came along to realize that it was okay to be happy with this pregnancy. It was okay to be happy with my hubby. It was okay to let my hubby take care of us. It was okay to lean on someone besides me.  I didn't have to do it alone like before. He was trying to make up for time lost with our first son. I think our second child made us  healthier parents and a family. In a way I think our second child saved us as a couple. We were always happy before now we know what's it like to truly be happy. It's not something we have to fight for anymore. Happiness is just that it's not glued to what if's, ultimatums or demands from anyone. 
 I love my children. It's hard enough finding out you are going to be a mother without people telling you what you should do because of their own personal beliefs. I think more people should try and help instead of telling a soon to be mother they were wrong in how they conceived a child. I'm not saying forget your beliefs but the choice to or not to have abortion will only effect the woman who is having it done or not done.  I have made the right choices I seen fit for my children and I won't apologize for trying to make my children happy. I won't apologize for not knowing what to do when I found out I was going to be a mom. Your life will always change day by day. What you choose to do with your day is your choice. What a woman does with her body is her choice. Now, I know many will have an opinion with what I just said but if you can't be charged with two murders in Florida if you kill a pregnant woman how is it that abortion is consider murder by many? It should go case by case for abortion one set of RULES just don't fit it.

I don't approve  abortion being used as birth control. I think a woman should always have the right to say she wants a child or not. Until a man can get pregnant he should not voice so strongly about a woman having a child. I do believe some NOT all women can raise a child from rape. Some NOT all women can handle nine months of raising a life inside her to just give it away. Being a women brings so many things to the table like giving life. Until we are all able to look, feel and step into someone's life as our own we will never know what goes through a woman's mind when she decides to get an ABORTION! I just gave you a peek of what I went through there is always more to story. Be kind don't judge to quickly when this topic comes up. Just take a second and think what would you do? How can you live with your choice? How will it change you? Can you survive after the choice you make? The choice to abort a child will effect the woman the most. 

Monday, September 23


Are you a 90's baby like me if so you know the song above. I love this song! Lena my Zumba teacher plays this song. It's so funny because it's a mix class with all different age groups in it but everyone knows this song just like the Humpty Dance. After this song I feel like she should play Marky Mark good vibrations to keep the mood up. I was my son's age listening to all the jams.
                Vanilla Ice 

was hanging on my wall above my bunk bed. I had a New Kids on The Block gear. You name it I had it dolls, cd's, play cards  hair scrunchies on  my arm Janet Jackson was my all time favorite singer in my cassette player. I wanted to be just like her back then believe it or not I had no clue her brother was Micheal back then. Yet, I could minnick their moves in all their videos to a T still can. Justin laughs at me we could be anywhere if I hear the song Thriller or Rhythem Nation I bust out in a dance. My best friend in the world Cindy and I always had a mood ring on. 
 I'll never forget the episode when Dylan's father died I cried for a week. Bill Nye the science guy was Awesome made me believe anything was possible. Captain Planet was the reason I went all gun ho on saving the planet.
The power is yours!
I woke up just to watch Saturday morning cartoons like clock work. I volunteer to babysit my brother and sisters just to watch TGIF on Fridays. I wanted to be a witch like Sabrina. My love for Martial Arts comes from watching the Power Rangers. Mr. Fennny was an inspiration to want to get good grades however I never wanted a neighbor like Wilson on Home improvement he freaked me out! I can't tell you how many pogs I had.
I still have a BOOMBox saving it for when I hit 85 I can dance the Tootsie Roll song with my hubby and I can die happy.

I still sing Aqua: “I’m a Barbie Girl, in the Barbie World…” go ahead I know you know it sing it. You were either a NSYNC fan or Backstreet fan you  couldn't be both it was a unsaid rule. Even though most of the people I knew were both like me. I did try to die my hair blonde when Miss Britney Spears came out I ended up with orange hair that my mother was not to happy with but because it bugged her I wore it proudly! The Macarena is and still is the all time song for a wedding we also rock the moves in Zumba. The Thong song was reason I  went to colorful ones instead of just black and white. I had a trapper keeper since I was 8 still have one I use today. (Laughing) My sister and I always had our dad bake with us on the easy bake oven when it broke he talk to our mom for both of them to teach us how to cook for real. I love 90's!

Wednesday, September 18


Have you ever been in a place one time or another when what you are doing seems 100% right? Well I have I have been working on a book for the last four years it is almost completed with original emails, phone conversations, court documents and police reports. It tells a story about two families. It's the up and downs what a Step-parent has went through. I'm not even sure if you could call her a step parent really being in the child's life for less than a year but in that year spent more time with the said child then both parents. She is the only one who battles her husband to pick up the said child the only one who thinks the Biological mother and Father are being unreasonable on both ends. The mother tries to battle with the father daily with at times 50 or more phone calls a day. His response is to leave it be not engage with her and if he doesn't see his son "Oh Well!"  There is a reason he says oh well. Yet, Constant harassing from the Mother  to the step- mother with phone calls to emails to trying to kill her becomes a little much to bear. The mother even has her friends and family harassing her at work along with emails as well.

What is a parent to do when she has no connection to a child but marriage? Her only fault is trying to love the child as her own. She involved her family with the said child as part of a family her family. Yet, The Biological mom mad her son hate the step- mother by telling him lies. If you have seen the movie Step Mom it's a lot like that just no one is dying.

     Now with the release of this book "A Child" written by me will and can hurt the feeling of two brother's. I know both families one personal the other not so much.  They are seven years old just a few months apart. My dilemma is to continue to push the book forward or let it sit till both are much older. It will bring drama to the two families again. I feel the truth should come out. I'm just unsure if I should use real names  or fake. I have thought about both but still come up with a Dilemma. What would you do?

I'm going to open my blog for anonymous comments just for this post.

Sunday, September 15

Ocean Conservancy

Ocean Conservancy

Why we need to clean up the beaches near you. Besides being the right thing to do here are a few other reasons to help.
  We missed clean up today due to rain. We will make it up later in the week.

International Coastal Cleanup

This year's Cleanup will take place on September 21, 2013. Help be apart of the solution not the problem. I will be there with my family will you?

Saturday, September 14

Suicide Prevention Month

 It has been an everyday event that my family has made helping people out a daily part of life. Pay it forward everyone has heard of this one time or another. Where you help someone and in turn the person you helped will "Pay it Forward" to help someone else. It's something small like watching a child or giving a friend a few dollars maybe something like this. Buying socks for our troops they may not be able to wash their clothes for sometime but there is nothing like a new pair of socks. Click on for more information about this program. Sending a few pair of socks for a soldier will make them smile. Trust me a smile goes a long way. It's the least we can do to say thank you for your services.

The Socks for Heroes project has only one purpose, getting socks to our Marines. We do not compete with anyone in this task and are grateful to anybody else who is also pursuing this effort. Our primary purpose is to build and work within a community of support for our guys forward. As such, we are willing to share any information that we have regarding getting socks forward with any group. While we have provided a vehicle to help, we realize that we are not the only one and are grateful for the others. If you have ideas that can help us be more effective, I'd sure like to hear about them. In the words of Mother Teresa, "we appreciate your money, but your time means so much more".

                         Suicide Prevention Month
It is also Suicide Prevention Month for September. This site is also helping our troops who come back from overseas to deal with being put back into the real world. Suicide sadly is very high among all branches of the Military. Please click on the link below to read some amazing stories.

More men and women coming back from battle are dying by their own hands then on the battlefield needs to be heard. We as Americans need to help our soldiers in need. Most suffer from what is called PTSD otherwise known as  Post-traumatic Stress Disorder 
It is hard to forget what they had to do in order to save a life their own a fellow friend and fight for our country. Not many people understand why it's so hard for loved ones friends and strangers to get over what had to be done overseas. Weather or not you agree with war our men and women have a job to do they do it without question. Not many outlets are available for people to get help like This site helps people tell their stories and have a chance to ask for help. Most of the time our soldiers just need someone to listen someone to tell them it will all be okay in the end. You may not realize it but you may have a big impact on someone's life.  Don't get me wrong there are some extreme cases where other forms of help are in need.

Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-273-8255
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

Wednesday, September 11


                        Remember 9/11 

      9/11 False Flag – German Documentary

Remember this day never forget the lives that once were here. Many died on this day that didn't have to. Please take a moment of silence for this day as it will never be forgotten. Talk to your children about WHY today should mean something Why it should be remember. Everyday people die for our country that are left names less others I don't think will ever be explain why they had to die like a year ago when news took over the world releasing information about BENGHAZI. It has been a year with no news on why no help was sent.

Remember today talk about today listen about today Remember. God Bless all the families of 9/11 who lost loved ones and the families left behind from Benghazi. My heart and prayers are with you all.

9/11 posts that should be read
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Tuesday, September 10

Sons of Anarchy

Not really a blog post but hey running on time here being a mommy never stops.

Have you ever read 50 shades of gray? I have it took me two weeks to read all three books.  I really like the first one not so much the second one and the third book threw me for a loop I didn't like the ending at all. I hear from all the Facebook news that Charlie Hunnam to play Christian Grey. Most people don't like the ideal but I never would of thought of him as Christian. He makes the perfect guy for the role. Let me tell you why if you are a fan of the TV show Sons of Anarchy like the hubby and I it's a no brainier. His role is dirty, bad, good and hot. I can definitely see him spanking Anna for sure. However the actors may not make it in their real life relationship after the filming.  I don't think if I was a spouse of one of them I could take the movie let alone being on set for the taping of many scenes.  That's a hard one but I can't wait for the movie to come out. The hubby and I already made plans to go see it. Until then watch tonight at 10 pm on FX. 


Saturday, September 7

Yoga Class

Yoga is considered a mind-body type of complementary and alternative medicine practice. Yoga brings together physical and mental disciplines to achieve peacefulness of body and mind, helping you relax and manage stress and anxiety. 

I  have been taking yoga since I was in high school now I take yoga classes at the YMCA. It's a lot of fun but I'm not sure about HOT YOGA. 

What is Hot Yoga? 

Hot yoga is a vigorous form of yoga performed in a studio that is heated to 105 F (40 C) and has a humidity of 40 percent. The formal name for hot yoga is Bikram.

I have incorporated yoga into our daily life with our boys. I have found that it helps settle us down before story time in our house. The boys love it. I have the boys count to ten if I see they are getting frustrated in their daily routine. My boys are more focus in school and in life.  Count to ten and breathe is the best option when I set foot on a lego slide into the wall on a marble trip over the train in the hallway the cat scares the hell out of me and of course when I'm being pulled into three different directions by the hubby and kids. It works for me why not them? I have to say private yoga classes are needed with the hubby he has his mind in the gutter when the pose for downward facing dog is next. 

Example in the picture not of me just off of GOOGLE.

Not that I mind but we never get a full yoga class done together but we do have to stretch afterwards. If you need some alone time with your wonderful other half you should take a yoga class. It will help you and your marriage. I have never had the need to go to marriage counseling but I think this may help others. Yoga Helps my Marriage! Try yoga first get that spark back in the game. I have too much spark thank god my hubby matches me. (laughing) I think that is enough of yoga talk for today.

                                   Have a great day take a yoga class today.

Word to the wise if you do take a class space yourself out so you won't get a foot in the eye or kick someone in the head. It can be dangerous I have seen it! Good luck!

EKOCYCLE Commercial: "An End Can Be a New Start"

Trash is only trash if you let it stay trash.

Something to think about to start your day off today.

Tuesday, September 3

"Leave Only Your Footprints"

Keep Brevard Beautiful

I hate going to the beach seeing plastic bottles, sandwich bags, plastic grocery bags, beer cans and broken sand buckets to just rot away on the beach. You would think that people would want to be clean so they can keep coming back. Nope My son and I have no problem asking someone to pick up their trash if they just toss it to the side. I didn't realize how much my oldest is just like me. He is quite yet very out spoken on topics he cares about. We bring back a beach bag full of trash to the car to get rid of it properly. I mean it takes all of two seconds to walk your lazy ass yes LAZY ASS to the trash cans that are on the beach to throw away your garbage. The family and I have decide to adopt a shore here in our county.

I think it will be fun to clean up the beach it's not anything we haven't done. It will also teach my Popsicle early that our environment is very important to take care of. I think I started with my oldest when he was one we started recycling, picking up the neighborhood trash and throwing it away. He cleaned his first park and donated his time in Kindergarten. Justin  help painting his Aunt's garage when he was six.  Here are some pictures of the second year he helped out his school with Cub Scouts.

Now we are off to make our beach beautiful. It's really the small things in life you can be proud of that will mean more as you get older. He still talks about wanting to help when people out on Thanksgiving at a shelter to make sure people get enough to eat on that Holiday. I have held him back in the last recent years because it's emotional for an adult to give their time on Thanksgiving let alone a child. Justin takes it to heart when people suffer. Maybe he can handle it this year he hit the big 10 in July. He has grown so much this year. I'm very proud of my little man. We already donate clothes to our church the YMCA and day cares around our city. What do you do to help out?                                                                                                                                                                                Leave only your FOOTPRINTS.

"Will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character."

I came upon this blog by Bryce Buchanan blogs at Reality Bats Last. Here is some of what he wrote. 

We are taught, incorrectly, that it is not appropriate to talk honestly about it.  But ignoring or denying the problem is the most foolish approach of all.  We must acknowledge it and we must talk about it.
Consider these statistics:
§  Blacks are seven times more likely than people of other races to commit murder, and eight times more likely to commit robbery.
§  The best indicator of violent crime levels in an area is the percent of the population that is black and Hispanic.
§  Blacks are 39 times more likely to commit a violent crime against whites then vice versa, and 136 times more likely to commit a robbery.
§  The death toll from murder in Chicago over the last decade exceeds the death toll of our soldiers in Afghanistan since the beginning of that war.  [Handgun purchases are not allowed in Chicago.]
§  Nearly 3/4 of black children are born out of wedlock.  Generations of children are being raise without fathers.
§  Academic achievement for black students is appallingly low, despite a large amount of money being spent to provide that group with educational opportunities.
Now consider the fact that decent black people are the people who are most harmed by this violent subculture.  They are the closest to the problem and suffer the most from it. But we all suffer from this growing cancer and ignoring the problem is simply one way to commit national suicide.
This problem is not about skin color.  The real problem is bad values.  There is nothing about having melanin in your skin that will protect you from the natural consequences of destructive values.  Violent, hostile, uneducated, misogynistic men who do not care for their children will not be successful... anywhere, ever.  And no civilization can survive the degradation of its women.  Thug culture celebrates the degradation of women.
Think about the Vietnamese refugees or other Asian refugees who came to this country from lives of severe deprivation.  They had nothing...except good values.  With hard work, education, family values, self-discipline and perseverance, most achieved the American Dream in a short amount of time.  In one generation, they were often small business owners and valedictorians.  Fortunately for them, they had no putative leaders teaching them victim hood and hopelessness.  No one told them it was someone else's job to make their lives successful.
If we discuss this problem openly we will be called racists.  People will say we are finally "showing our true colors".  We will be called liars.  Thug culture will be defended.  They will say we are afraid of black masculinity, as though violent bravado is praiseworthy.  There will be a large leftist effort to stop people from saying what needs to be said.
We should ignore the criticism and steadfastly pursue Martin Luther King's dream of living in a nation where people "will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character."  This dream strikes fear in the hearts of current civil rights 'leaders' who abhor the idea of character judgments.  They live in the past.  For them, it is all about skin color.
In my view, no one has done more to impede the progress of black people than black 'leaders" and other leftists in the racial grievance industry.  They sell exactly the wrong message of victim hood, telling blacks on the dependency plantation that none of their problems are their fault and nothing is their responsibility.  Could you find a better formula for creating an angry, dependent population than to tell them that all of their problems are caused by others and all of their needs are someone else's job to fill.  From Sharpton to Obama, the message is destructive, though it does maintain the desired voting block.
Accepting lower standards of behavior for black people is a form of racism.  Only a racist would say that black people are not capable of joining civilized society on an equal footing.  Do blacks need lower standards because they are inferior people?  This is the soft bigotry of low expectations.  Violent, ignorant, parasitic thug culture is not a built- in defect.  It comes from bad values which are created and supported by bad social policy.  The violent subculture persists because of an absurd level of tolerance on our part.
Bryce Buchanan blogs at Reality Bats Last. 

Please share violence against anyone is wrong no matter the color of your skin. I believe that if Dr. Martin Luther King was alive today things among blacks and whites would be 100% different. The mentality of how the color of your skin would be viewed in a whole new light. I never heard about the crimes listed in the link above but yet why would I? Theses stories only get under people's skin yet we never hear about the good people do. We should ask ourselves why the media is so dead set on only telling stories about race? That is only between black and white.I think it's only to divide the American People more then what we are. I thought voting for Obama was going to be good for our country. He is sending the wrong message to young black Americans to the world at that.  I still had the thought if you give the wrong man power he will run with it. I was right there are more people on welfare then before he hit office twice as many people out of work. Most of the people who are out of work refuse to work for a lower wage then what they are used to making. Instead they want to make hard decent people that choose to work pay for their choice to be lazy. America has become a nation of people who are lazy they don't take responsibility for their actions and no one wants to work for what they have. They want others to just give it to them. The only thing that sets people apart is how hard you are willing to make yourself great. 

Let yourself be great work to be great don't let the color of your skin be your set back. Don't let other's put you down you are great. Don't follow the flow of others because that is what is expected from you. Move outside box.

Please judge people by the content of their character not the color of their skin. Start today it starts with you treat people kind and fair no matter what color they may be. Love one another as a nation we don't have a chance to get over the race barrier without teaching love,kindness and respect to our children to others and ourselves. 

                                         Something to Think about TODAY!

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