Sunday, April 21


Sex education should be taught by the parents not schools. But if schools are going to teach it they should be teaching abstinence. That is what I was taught when I was  in 4th grade sex is meant for two people who love each other who are married who want to share their love deeper. This is what I have spoken about to my 9 year old son. He can't date a girl unless he has hers and our permission and has a job. By this rate the school should go deeper and teach the boys how much money it take to raise a child instead of leaving the girl with the consequence. If this happen to my child I would have someones head on a stick but I wouldn't stop there. The story would be heard around the world. I would take it all the way up the chain until I received answers of why this happen. Can we say this is child porn to have 13 and 14 year old girls to kiss. Are you kidding me? The boys were taught how to stay away from a slut! This story makes me sick to my stomach. I hope this hits the news big by a parent who won't let it go. I know I wouldn't! The teachers and the principal should be fired no ifs and or but about it. You decided after you read it. Let me know what you think? 


Red Hook, New York – A recent anti-bullying presentation at a middle school in New York that focused on homosexuality and gender identity has angered parents after their daughters have come home to tell them they were forced to ask another girl for a kiss.
According to reports, the session occurred last week at Linden Avenue Middle School in Red Hook, New York, near Poughkeepsie. A group of students from Bard College led two workshops for the youth, separated by gender.
During the workshop for girls, the 13 and 14-year-olds were told to ask one another for a lesbian kiss. They were also taught words such as “pansexual” and “genderqueer.”
Parent Mandy Coon told reporters that her daughter was very uncomfortable with the exercise.
“She told me, ‘Mom, we all get teased and picked on enough; now I’m going to be called a lesbian because I had to ask another girl if I could kiss her,’” she lamented.
Coon stated that she was especially irate over the matter because parents were given no warning about the presentations, nor an opportunity to opt out. She is also dismayed that college students were granted the right to come into the classroom and encourage her daughter to be sexually active.
“I am furious,” she declared. “I am her parent. Where does anyone get the right to tell her that it’s okay for her to have sex?”
“The school is overstepping its bounds in not notifying parents first and giving us the choice,” another parent remarked. “I thought it was very inappropriate. That kind of instruction is best left up to the parents.”
According to reports, during the workshop for the adolescent boys, the students were counseled to keep a condom in their pocket at all times, and were taught how to identify a woman who is a “slut.”
“I was absolutely furious – really furious,” an anonymous parent told reporter Todd Starnes. “These are just kids. I’m dumbfounded that they found this class was appropriate.”
However, both the school principal and the district superintendent are defending the workshops, and are advising that they will schedule more. Superintendent Paul Finch told the Poughkeepsie Journal that the presentation was “focused on improving culture, relationships, communication and self-perceptions.”
“[We] may require more notification to parents” in the future, he said, contending that the sessions are required under the state Dignity for All Students Act, which prohibits harassment and bullying in the classroom.
He advised that Principal Katie Zahedi and guidance counselors at the school worked with the Bard students to plan the workshops. Zahedi asserts that the sessions were rather about saying no to unwanted advances as opposed to encouraging homosexual acts.
“In planning the discussion, we made it clear that absolutely no discussion of any sexual acts is appropriate to middle school, and they used the examples of a kiss,” she wrote in an online forum for parents. “It was a separate activity for boys and girls and ultimately about respect and safety.”
Mark Primoff, a spokesman for Bard College said that students had volunteered to give the presentation after Zehedi invited the institution of higher learning to participate in the workshops.
However, parents remain livid over the matter. A public meeting was held this week for residents to express their concerns.
It is not known whether girls actually had to kiss one another, or if the exercise stopped at the request.

Saturday, April 20

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Friday, April 19

Our walk today.

                                   Went to the park today and this is what we came up with. 
Christopher loves to go to the park. I love just hanging out with my two year old. Being a stay at home mommy I get to take little adventures daily with my son. I used to do the same-thing when my oldest was his age. It's relaxing to come up with things to do. Next Friday I will know for sure or not if we are taking a trip back home. I can't wait to see how this week goes by.  The 27 hour drive I'm not looking forward to.
We are looking for flowers. I don't know why but ever since I gave him a flower about a month ago. He has an obsession with them now. He will pick them and give them to me to smell.

Christopher is now getting ants and putting them on his arm. 

Don't know if you can see it but a bird is standing there looking at us. 
A shell from a horseshoe crab I think. It was a beautiful day today. We sat at the picnic table watching the waves. I love the ocean it's were I was meant to be. 

Sunday, April 14

100 Ways to Make Your Marriage Rock

  1. Write him letters
  2. Go on regular date nights
  3. Write his name on lipstick on the bathroom mirror
  4. Revitalize the romance with intimate dates
  5. Pray together
  6. Hide notes in secret places
  7. Go to bed at the same time
  8. Listen to music together-share ear buds
  9. Send him on a scavenger hunt in the house
  10. Buy him gifts he will love
  11. Hide a treat in his glove box or desk at work
  12. Read the Bible together
  13. Wear shirts that tell the world you love your spouse
  14. Praise your spouse to other people
  15. Let them overhear you
  16. Read a marriage devotional
  17. Porn-proof your home( I disagree just as long as it doesn't get out of hand. I always say my hubby can look but he has to eat at home)
  18. Be best friends
  19. Sleep in his t-shirts(naked is better)
  20. Look to him to make the big decisions (it's 50/50in our household)
  21. Let her make the small ones
  22. Don’t nag him(I never it seems silly to do that I'm not his mom. He either does it or he doesn't)
  23. Put down the seat, pick up your socks for her
  24. Renew your vows privately with whispers and memories
  25. Renew them publicly with cake and bubbly
  26. Fight naked( we always do it's fun but always end up hot and sweaty)
  27. Tell him you like him( I think my hubby is yummy)
  28. Receive his compliments
  29. Pick your battles( funny but the battles we have are where we go out to get right now it's about what nude beach we should go to)
  30. Show her you love her and tell him you respect him(always it's a daily thing with us)
  31. Go away together at least once a year(planning now)
  32. Frame your wedding vows
  33. Her: Read For Women Only
  34. Hang pictures of the two of you around your house( we have many)
  35. Kiss in front of your kids( always I can't help not to his smile brings me in every time)
  36. Make his favorite dessert
  37. Have pictures of just the two of you made
  38. Make sex a priority( everyday 3 times  DAY)
  39. Spend time apart occasionally
  40. Learn to enjoy something he loves(MMA FIGHTING)
  41. Surprise each other
  42. Meet him at the door ( I do it's like meeting him for the first time. I get butterflies in my belly every time  I see him)
  43. Dream storm
  44. Text each other from across the room
  45. Be accountable to each other
  46. Set reminders on your phone to remember him/her throughout the week
  47. Call him right now and tell him you appreciate him
  48. Be affectionate
  49. Him: Read For Men Only
  50. Leave work and come home early
  51. Wash, vacuum her car. Keep it full of gas.( He does ever since I started driving it's funny I just had to get gas and had to call him to ask how to do it. lol)
  52. Give each other romantic coupons
  53. Engage every day in meaningful conversation
  54. Compliment each other
  55. Touch your spouse several times throughout the day( we can't keep our hands off each other)
  56. Take one day a month to make your spouse your total focus
  57. Let each other sleep in
  58. Be spontaneous!(That's what we live for)
  59. Argue fair: avoid these words “you always” and “you never”( we don't argue)
  60. Kiss every day
  61. Find tangible ways to serve your mate without complaining
  62. Forgive quickly
  63. Be honest.(always we made that the number one rule when we met)
  64. But not hurtful
  65. Get on the same page: plan your budget together
  66. Look your best as often as you can
  67. Guard your marriage
  68. Get out of debt (and stay out)
  69. Laugh together
  70. Have a date night in(every week)
  71. When your together-BE TOGETHER (take a break from phones, technology, etc)
  72. Talk about your favorite memories together
  73. Tell him he’s sexy just because( I tell him he is my yummy piece of meat)
  74. Tell her she’s pretty, especially when she’s not feeling it
  75. Make him breakfast in bed
  76. Do her chores for her(I remember the first time my hubby washed my clothes. I came home from work and I wanted to take a shower. He folded my panties so weird he still does it. I just throw them in my dresser)
  77. Get a couple’s massage or host your own privately
  78. Read a book out loud together
  79. Dance together-soft music (alone) or rocking music with the kids( We can be in the middle of the store when he takes me by the hand to dance. It's one of my hubby's sides I adore)
  80. Bring her/him a favorite drink during the middle of the day( my handyman needs lemonade)
  81. Exercise together-hikes, bike riding, etc( we are fitness freaks)
  82. Choose not to be annoyed by an irritating behavior/disappointment
  83. Tell him a secret he doesn’t know about you
  84. Thank your spouse just because, often
  85. Sit on the same side of a booth at a restaurant
  86. Lay in bed together and stare into each other eyes, without talking
  87. Learn something new together-take an art class, cooking lessons, etc
  88. Leave a sweet comment on the Facebook wall
  89. Teach your kids about marriage
  90. Stop what you’re doing, look them in the eye and listen to their answer
  91. Create art together
  92. Support each other’s goals( I'm back my hubby's goals 100% as he does the same for me)
  93. Know when to talk and when to hush
  94. Consider counseling (even if there’s not conflict)I disagree why go if there isn't a problem.
  95. Doodle his name
  96. Bring her flowers (even when she says they are too expensive)
  97. Wear something he loves
  98. Share furniture-sit in his lap
  99. Fight for your marriage
  100. Remember your spouse rocks-even when they don’t.
Thanks for this wonderful information I had some I disagree with but left it as is. Maybe you have some to add or disagree with but these are my thoughts and only mind. I know my hubby and I had a life before each other but what we both understand is that we love each other for who we are not who we were. I think most people let things get in the way and those become the problems that destoy a marriage. What I have learned from being married for seven years is that you have to have fun have lots of sex and just live life to the fullest everyday. Our  children are the best of what we are.  I

Saturday, April 13

Acts of Kindness for April

Justin's Steps have really taken off and has shown me as a mother a different side of my nine year old son. My hubby and I ask a lot out of him and we expect a lot from him. Yesterday we had a yard sale that went well. Justin gave a sweater to a boy from his school instead of asking for money for it.
                                                      I asked him "why?"
                       " Mom, it looked like he really needed it so I didn't ask for money!"
I was okay with that you see my son being as young as he is has as a heart of gold. I think he gets that from both my hubby and I. I guess I can call it human nature but as the world turns not everyone has a heart of gold or as helpful. Justin's friend across from us also wanted the skateboard Justin was selling. He gave that away as well for the reason that his friend's mom is getting ready to have a baby. They are trying to save for the baby so my son thought he was helping out. It makes me happy and very proud that my son thinks of others the way he does. After the yard sale it was my son's idea to go and donate the rest of the toys instead of selling them. We dropped off six bags of toys at the homeless shelter drop off box. I know we haven't been at our new house long but I received a surprising phone call to meet his teacher last week. It was a meeting to let me know that my son was very helpful  and very pleasant to have in class. He keeps his class on track and with his questions he ask  helps keep his class involved in what they are doing. I think that is awesome! What parent doesn't like to hear how well their child is doing in class? It was last April we started Justin's Steps to make a difference. I'm not sure on the date but we have kept it up all year long. From buying coffee from a cup of Joe to help our Troops over sea's. I donate blood as often as I can. I don't drink coffee as much as I used to but that hasn't stop me from buying coffee from Three Avocado's. I give it away to family member's. You can find the links to all of these and more on the right side of my blog as you scroll down.

                                Here is the list for the rest of April

  1. Make cookies for the Fire Department
  2. Drop off a Thank you letter to the Police Station
  3. Will drop off a house plant to everyone in our neighborhood
  4. Pick up trash along the streets on our daily 5 mile walk
  5. Justin takes back our neighbor's trash can back to his house twice a week on trash days
  6. Will write a letter to a person who needs a little up lift in life.
If you have any idea's to share please leave a comment below.

Here are a few step's my son has already made.

Thursday, April 11

The moments that last forever

The moments that last forever are the ones you remember it could be small insufficient time that put the most impact on your life. This is one of those moments for me. Wednesday my adorable hubby changed my brakes it only took 20 minutes to do it but just watching him work makes me appreciate him more. He is my handyman! Then it was time to wash  our vehicle's. Our boys love it as you can see my Popsicle is elbow high in soap on the left. Our truck is huge but you know men and their toys. My hubby is so easy to please it made his day when our boys said they would help. Then again anything to be with Daddy our boys don't care as long as they are with him. 

I love this picture the most!
This  makes me laugh my hubby had to get a ladder to wash the top. He thought it was funny to soak me with the hose. Christopher then took over for him. It was a lot of fun to just have family time it didn't even seem like it was work.

Now they are both nice clean and shinny! They smell vanilla fresh!
We made a cake for daddy. He has a sweet tooth for cake. It was a great day ending the night watching the stars. These little moments mean a lot not just to our boys but to us. They are growing up so fast I never know what the next day will hold. I think it's great my hubby spends as much time as he can to make sure he is here for our boys.  Living in a neighborhood I don't see any parents with their kids. Most are left home alone on our block or they have found my place where Justin befriends anyone.  I have a house full of at least 20 kids if not more on school days. I don't seem to mind it's always an adventure during the day. Take the time out to just be still like broccoli take a second to take a deep breath and smile. This is the life enjoy it!

Thursday, April 4

Thirteen Fourteen - Military Minds

This is sad to hear a story from a soldier with PTSD. You can see and feel the pain he is going though. I went though this in the beginning of my marriage. He was a different kind of person when he came home. It was hard for me to just leave him be when he would get in his moods. I talked a lot to my cousin who is also a Marine. I explained what was going on. His words " Just leave him alone if he gets quite. If  and when he tells you just listen. Don't pity don't disagree just listen. He will need you when he comes around." That was the best advice he gave me. I did just that and my hubby opened up to me. I understand what he went though and how and why it affected him the way it did.  Ever since we received the letter telling us he may go back. I hope it doesn't happen and we never get the call. I didn't know my hubby then the way I know him now. We are a family we are best friends I'm not sure I can be strong but if that time happens. I will be the strongest I have ever been for my Husband and children. They have a job to do and we need to support all of our soldiers. Once a soldier always a soldier!

Monday, April 1

Making a Jet pack


I was looking up a  few crafts online to do with my toddler. When I came across a jet pack.

First thing first I took the little backpack  Christopher was mailed with his books I ordered him and cut it. Leaving the straps on. Make sure you leave the back of the backpack the way it came. Just cut off the front. You can buy these at any retail store.
Step 2:  I took two 2 liter pop bottles empty and washed out of course. I hot glued them to the backpack.
Step 3: I spray painted them gold. I just bought some from Walmart. Any will do whatever color you want. Let it dry and repaint  if you need to.
Step 4: After the bottles dried I put some cloth at the end of the bottles to make it look like fire.
Christopher had a blast acting like he was flying. He is now into The Little Einsteins on Disney. Which made this jet pack special. That show is absolutely adorable for a  little one to watch.

Things you should say everyday

It's hard being a mother no doubt.You get tired , cranky  and crabby. There is never enough time in a day to do what you need.  If you where in your children's shoes what would you want to hear from your parents? I made a list of ten things you should say to your little one's everyday. Life is like an open door to whatever you want. In order to get there you have to take a chance with life itself. Believe in yourself and above all believe in God or whoever you pray to.
1) I love you! - It may seem simple to say but it means a lot to a child. A child needs to hear you say those words. Say it as you cook dinner,on a walk ,playing a game. Say it just because. My son and I have always said (I love you to the moon and back.)
2) I'm proud of you! -  No matter what my children do in life I will always be proud of them. I tell my boys if you try no matter what happens I'm here for you.
3) You are special - Every child is special. Find something everyday that makes your child special (even if it is just because they are YOURS) and tell them about it.
4) It's okay. - Honestly, a lot of things my kids do is okay. It's okay to have a off day. They are kids I mean how grown up do you want them to be. I always tell my boys that its okay to have a cookie. If they dropped  a plate of food its okay not the end of the world.
5) Yes! - Kids hear "No."all the time tell them yes once a day when you know you will say "No" it will help you give them space to grow.
6) How about now? - Don't put things off till tomorrow  do it today.
7) That's a great idea! -  Let your kids know how great that thought they had at dinner was. Be spontaneous do something different. Maybe go to the next step and create it.
8) I love spending time with you! - Believe it or not, your kids would rather have you spend an hour reading, drawing, laughing, snuggling, playing, cooking, building, learning, teaching, racing, throwing, catching, swinging and smiling than anything that you can buy them. Best of all - it doesn't cost a penny! Each day spend some time with you kids and then tell them how much you love spending time with them, it will mean more than you can imagine! At least 30 minutes a day  and see where you go from there. Act out a book or plan a zap zone in your house. It will be fun. I just made a reading fort for my boys.
9) Will you help me? -  Kids love to help out. They need to feel needed by mom and dad. My hubby always let's our boys unpack the car with him. If he is working around the house our boys are right there. It may take a little longer but well worth it. I always let my kids help in the kitchen to help me cook. It may be a giant mess really but it's fun. My son Justin and I have been doing this since he could walk.
10) You make my life complete - Let your children know you enjoy your life now more then before. My Popsicle  is two he completed us and made us whole. My oldest and I kind of grew up together. He showed my hubby and I how to be parents . All you need is love,time and to be patient  with your kids. They are learning just like you as life goes by. One step at a time is all it takes.

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