Mark Ruffalo writes:
I am a man. I could say this has nothing to do with me. Except I have two daughters and I have a mother who was forced to illegally have an abortion in her state where abortion was illegal when she was a very young woman. It cost $600 cash. It was a traumatizing thing for her. It was shameful and sleazy and demeaning. When I heard the story I was aghast by the lowliness of a society that would make a woman do that. I could not understand its lack of humanity; today is no different.
What happened to my mother was a relic of an America that was not free nor equal nor very kind. My mother’s illegal abortion marked a time in America that we have worked long and hard to leave behind. It was a time when women were seen as second rate citizens who were not smart enough, nor responsible enough, nor capable enough to make decisions about their lives. It was a time that deserved to be left behind, and leave it behind we did, or so it seemed. We made abortion and a woman’s ability to be her own master a right. That right was codified into law. That law was the law of the land for decades.
My own mother fought to make herself more than a possession; she lived her life as a mother who chose when she would have children, and a wife who could earn a living if she so chose. I want my daughters to enjoy that same choice. I don’t want to turn back the hands of time to when women shuttled across state lines in the thick of night to resolve an unwanted pregnancy, in a cheap hotel room just south of the state line. Where a transaction of $600 cash becomes the worth of a young woman’s life.
So that is why I am lending my voice to you and your movement today. Because I actually trust the women I know. I trust them with their choices, I trust them with their bodies and I trust them with their children. I trust that they are decent enough and wise enough and worthy enough to carry the right of Abortion and not be forced to criminally that Right at the risk of death or jail time.
My cousin's husband posted this on Facebook today which had me thinking he is always posting something every other day about how it is wrong to abort a child. I don't support it or agree with it what I do agree with is a woman's right to choose. I know this is a touchy subject to a lot of people. Some have had to think about it while others went ahead with it. Some women have been rape by men and forced to have a child then are known to have abused that child because of it. It is a known fact that if she had the money she would have never had the child. You also can find that in abuse relationships the abuser kills his girlfriend or wife because of the child. No matter who the woman is your wife,sister,mother, girlfriend or friend her body will change. Her thoughts will change along with her body that will become bigger fatter to custom the life that has now taken over her body. It's more of an alien that grows inside of her for nine months. A pregnant woman needs support emotionally, physically and financially. A woman who has a support system may have a good pregnancy. When that test windows appears with two lines or a plus sign emotions over take your body and mind. Good thoughts or bad doesn't matter fear sinks. Your life will change forever. I don't think a man should voice his opinion or demand that a woman should or shouldn't have a baby. He doesn't have to put his body through anything.I have seen him post this picture on Facebook a dozen times. I asked him Facebook I hope it never happens "If your wife was rape and you both found out later that she was pregnant would you still want her to have the baby?"
As a woman of two beautiful boys knowing what my body went through for nine months what my mental state during both pregnancies were very different.My husband and I were not together when I was pregnant with our first son. It was complicated with both of us. We were pulled in many different directions with the military,our family, friends other people we were involved with. I didn't have support while I was pregnant with my son. I was scared to be a single mother at 20. The ladies I worked with were and still are my family. They helped me when no one else would. I was prepared for a child I had my own apartment a job. I just wasn't prepared for my life to change. My hubby and I did however made it work one day at a time. It was hard going through that with my son not knowing where we stood as a family. I almost did have an abortion for the simple fact that I wasn't ready to be a mother. The father and I weren't together it was a mentally struggle for both of us coming from abusive homes that were very unstable. We were not ready at all. I don't think I would have had my son if my family and the father(my hubby now)at time didn't pressure me to have a child. There was so much going on at the time it was a little insane to think that was the only way out. Don't get me wrong I love my son to death I would do and have given him the world. I wouldn't change it for anything now. It took me up until my second son came along to realize that it was okay to be happy with this pregnancy. It was okay to be happy with my hubby. It was okay to let my hubby take care of us. It was okay to lean on someone besides me. I didn't have to do it alone like before. He was trying to make up for time lost with our first son. I think our second child made us healthier parents and a family. In a way I think our second child saved us as a couple. We were always happy before now we know what's it like to truly be happy. It's not something we have to fight for anymore. Happiness is just that it's not glued to what if's, ultimatums or demands from anyone.
I don't approve abortion being used as birth control. I think a woman should always have the right to say she wants a child or not. Until a man can get pregnant he should not voice so strongly about a woman having a child. I do believe some NOT all women can raise a child from rape. Some NOT all women can handle nine months of raising a life inside her to just give it away. Being a women brings so many things to the table like giving life. Until we are all able to look, feel and step into someone's life as our own we will never know what goes through a woman's mind when she decides to get an ABORTION! I just gave you a peek of what I went through there is always more to story. Be kind don't judge to quickly when this topic comes up. Just take a second and think what would you do? How can you live with your choice? How will it change you? Can you survive after the choice you make? The choice to abort a child will effect the woman the most.