Showing posts with label Abortion. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Abortion. Show all posts

Friday, September 27

Is it a woman's right to choose?


Mark Ruffalo writes:
I am a man. I could say this has nothing to do with me. Except I have two daughters and I have a mother who was forced to illegally have an abortion in her state where abortion was illegal when she was a very young woman. It cost $600 cash. It was a traumatizing thing for her. It was shameful and sleazy and demeaning. When I heard the story I was aghast by the lowliness of a society that would make a woman do that. I could not understand its lack of humanity; today is no different.
What happened to my mother was a relic of an America that was not free nor equal nor very kind. My mother’s illegal abortion marked a time in America that we have worked long and hard to leave behind. It was a time when women were seen as second rate citizens who were not smart enough, nor responsible enough, nor capable enough to make decisions about their lives. It was a time that deserved to be left behind, and leave it behind we did, or so it seemed. We made abortion and a woman’s ability to be her own master a right. That right was codified into law. That law was the law of the land for decades.
My own mother fought to make herself more than a possession; she lived her life as a mother who chose when she would have children, and a wife who could earn a living if she so chose. I want my daughters to enjoy that same choice. I don’t want to turn back the hands of time to when women shuttled across state lines in the thick of night to resolve an unwanted pregnancy, in a cheap hotel room just south of the state line.  Where a transaction of $600 cash becomes the worth of a young woman’s life.
So that is why I am lending my voice to you and your movement today. Because I actually trust the women I know.  I trust them with their choices, I trust them with their bodies and I trust them with their children.  I trust that they are decent enough and wise enough and worthy enough to carry the right of Abortion and not be forced to criminally exercise that Right at the risk of death or jail time.
 My cousin's husband posted this on Facebook today which had me thinking he is always posting something every other day about how it is wrong to abort a child. I don't support it or agree with it what I do agree with is a woman's right to choose. I know this is a touchy subject to a lot of people. Some have had to think about it while others went ahead with it. Some women have been rape by men and forced to have a child then are known to have abused that child because of it. It is a known fact that if she had the money she would have never had the child. You also can find that in abuse relationships the abuser kills his girlfriend or wife because of the child. No matter who the woman is your wife,sister,mother, girlfriend or friend her body will change. Her thoughts will change along with her body that will become bigger fatter to custom the life that has now taken over her body. It's more of an alien that grows inside of her for nine months. A pregnant woman needs support emotionally, physically and financially. A woman who has a support system may have a good pregnancy. When that test windows appears with two lines or a plus sign emotions over take your body and mind. Good thoughts or bad doesn't matter fear sinks. Your life will change forever. I don't think a man should voice his opinion or demand that a woman should or shouldn't have a baby. He doesn't have to put his body through anything. 
  I have seen him post this picture on Facebook a dozen times. I asked him Facebook I hope it never happens "If your wife was rape and you both found out later that she was pregnant would you still want her to have the baby?"

As a woman of two beautiful boys knowing what my body went through for nine months what my mental state during both pregnancies were very different.My husband and I were not together when I was pregnant with our first son. It was complicated with both of us. We were pulled in many different directions with the military,our family, friends other people we were involved with. I didn't have support while I was pregnant with my son. I was scared to be a single mother at 20. The ladies I worked with were and still are my family. They helped me when no one else would. I was prepared for a child I had my own apartment a job. I just wasn't prepared for my life to change. My hubby and  I did however made it work one day at a time. It was hard going through that with my son not knowing where we stood as a family. I almost did have an abortion for the simple fact that I wasn't ready to be a mother. The father and I weren't together it was a mentally struggle for both of us coming from abusive homes that were very unstable. We were not ready at all. I don't think I would have had my son if my family and the father(my hubby now)at time didn't pressure me to have a child. There was so much going on at the time it was a little insane to think that was the only way out.  Don't get me wrong I love my son to death I would do and have given him the world. I wouldn't change it for anything now. It took me up until my second son came along to realize that it was okay to be happy with this pregnancy. It was okay to be happy with my hubby. It was okay to let my hubby take care of us. It was okay to lean on someone besides me.  I didn't have to do it alone like before. He was trying to make up for time lost with our first son. I think our second child made us  healthier parents and a family. In a way I think our second child saved us as a couple. We were always happy before now we know what's it like to truly be happy. It's not something we have to fight for anymore. Happiness is just that it's not glued to what if's, ultimatums or demands from anyone. 
 I love my children. It's hard enough finding out you are going to be a mother without people telling you what you should do because of their own personal beliefs. I think more people should try and help instead of telling a soon to be mother they were wrong in how they conceived a child. I'm not saying forget your beliefs but the choice to or not to have abortion will only effect the woman who is having it done or not done.  I have made the right choices I seen fit for my children and I won't apologize for trying to make my children happy. I won't apologize for not knowing what to do when I found out I was going to be a mom. Your life will always change day by day. What you choose to do with your day is your choice. What a woman does with her body is her choice. Now, I know many will have an opinion with what I just said but if you can't be charged with two murders in Florida if you kill a pregnant woman how is it that abortion is consider murder by many? It should go case by case for abortion one set of RULES just don't fit it.

I don't approve  abortion being used as birth control. I think a woman should always have the right to say she wants a child or not. Until a man can get pregnant he should not voice so strongly about a woman having a child. I do believe some NOT all women can raise a child from rape. Some NOT all women can handle nine months of raising a life inside her to just give it away. Being a women brings so many things to the table like giving life. Until we are all able to look, feel and step into someone's life as our own we will never know what goes through a woman's mind when she decides to get an ABORTION! I just gave you a peek of what I went through there is always more to story. Be kind don't judge to quickly when this topic comes up. Just take a second and think what would you do? How can you live with your choice? How will it change you? Can you survive after the choice you make? The choice to abort a child will effect the woman the most. 

Wednesday, April 18

I seen this on facebook.

A worried woman went to her gynecologist and said:

'Doctor, I have a serious p...roblem and desperately need your help! My baby is not even 1 year old and I'm pregnant again. I don't want kids so close together.'

So the doctor said: 'Ok and what do you want me to do?'

She said: 'I want you to end my pregnancy, and I'm counting on your help with this.'

The doctor thought for a little, and after some silence he said to the lady: 'I think I have a better solution for your problem. It's less dangerous for you too.'

She smiled, thinking that the doctor was going to accept her request.

Then he continued: 'You see, in order for you not to have to take care of 2 babies at the same time, let's kill the one in your arms. This way, you could rest some before the other one is born. If we're going to kill one of them, it doesn't matter which one it is. There would be no risk for your body if you chose the one in your arms.'

The lady was horrified and said: 'No doctor! How terrible! It's a crime to kill a child!'

'I agree', the doctor replied. 'But you seemed to be OK with it, so I thought maybe that was the best solution.'

The doctor smiled, realizing that he had made his point.

He convinced the mom that there is no difference in killing a child that's already been born and one that's still in the womb. The crime is the same!

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Love says, 'I sacrifice myself for the good of the other person.' Abortion says, 'I sacrifice the other person for the good of myself.'
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I use to say I was against Abortion reading this I think my mind has been changed. I mean really what would be the differences? I don't think this woman has a case for Abortion. I still think only in extreme case as of rape. Not all woman are strong enough to have a child of rape.

Thursday, December 8

Let's Talk about this for a mintue.

Okay I seen this story on yahoo talking about the morning after pill being stop from being sold over the counter. Like I said I'm not for or against abortion. I think it should be looked at case by case and only if in a case where the woman is rape or incest happens. My opinion yes some may not like it. Then again it is just my opinion about this subject. It takes a special person to raise a child of rape or incest. Then again not all women can do this just like all women can not be a sergeant for another woman. There are many things one person can do that another just can't. To get back to this story it took my interest in why would an 11 year old would need to buy this pill. First of all if a 11 year old is having sex just for the hell of it the parents need to be slap and the child needs some help. I'm a mother of two boys and so far girls still have germs. I tell Justin he can't date till he is 30. (Laughing) I don't want to think about him having sex. I have talked to him about it. Steve and I have instill very high morals that contain to he should wait to have sex with his wife only. If he can't provide a home for the woman he sleeps with then he shouldn't be having sex.  He needs a J.O.B and her parents permission to even go out on a date with a girl.Steve and I don't want our kids to have drama before their time. Kid's and baby mamma's are not going to fly around our house. I have heard that the best thing in life is to find someone without baggage. It is less problems in the long run. I have many friends where in this case would be true. I'm glad it can not be sold over the counter next to condoms.

Did you know that having a child will lower your risk of having breast cancer by 46%? I didn't know that piece of information. I guess some studies have found that if you terminate your first pregnancy you will increase your risk for breast cancer. Now just one question to the world why is this information not  following the breast cancer awareness commercials? I think this needs to be heard for all women. I think it may change their minds before they hit the sack with the hottie that is on the football team.

Women please think about this just for a momonet. Click on these links I have provide it's information everyone should know.

Now that I have that off my chest there is something else alot of people don't know about me I was an egg donor for three years. The clinic I donated at has been on my mind lately. I know I will never know who received my eggs because it was anonymous. I almost died the first time I donated. I donated  four more times after that. The last time my hubby didn't want me to do it but agreed with me. Going though that with Steve was very hard. He never left my bedside.  In the state of Michigan a wife can not be a donor unless the husband agrees. This is with most clinics anyways. I'm really happy to report that the clinic has be very successfully with a pregnancy from a frozen embryo. Just out of  being curious since I was picked many times. I can't help but wonder if that could have been my egg. Not that I want to meet the child. I don't I just think that is very awesome. The last time I went though a cycle it was for research only. They called me recently to see if I wanted to donate again. I turned them down for that call I was still nursing Christopher at the time. I'm not sure what the long term affects are from being on fertility drugs or the retrieval of my eggs are. I know it counted each time they went inside to take them. It is a surgery that I have to confess up about when I see a doctor. I guess I'm scared a little from the last time I went in. Normally they put you under anesthesia for the procedure.
(A good egg retrieval may obtain between 10 and 20 eggs. An egg retrieval typically takes 15-20 minutes. Afterwards, the woman is taken to the recovery area while she “wakes up” from the medication. Usually, she can leave within an hour after completing the retrieval. The couple will be told how many eggs were retrieved before leaving the surgery center.

The day of the egg retrieval, the woman should plan on taking it easy. She will often be drowsy due to the residual effects of the anesthesia medication. Some nausea is possible but otherwise, she can eat whenever By the next day, she should be able to resume normal activities).

After the link the site states that you can resume to normal activities. I disagree with this I have not been the same since I donated my eggs. I didn't use this clinic. I  had Ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome the first time when they took out 72 eggs. That clinic I'm still working on trying to stop others from being treated like a chicken. The second clinic I went to was very professional about it. They treated me like a patient not just like an object. Each time they took out nothing less then 40 eggs. Without donors some women would never get the chance to have a baby at all. I was asked the question "Why did I want to be a donor?" I wanted to help people to have kids. I was like the butter for their turkey. Yes I told the doctor's that. They laugh about it just like they were shock to see Steve my husband being involved in each step like he was. Sometimes he had more questions then I did about what needed to be done. Then again I'm already use to Steve being that way with me. When you truly love someone you can share everything with them. I'm very gratefully Steve was and wanted to be there with me. Steve was the one who gave the shots to me. That by the way I give credit to anyone who has to take shots daily. It is very hard to do. I have never had an abortion but the last time I had a retrieval I had to do it without medication. I think that is why my views on this subject are the way they are. The feeling of something being sucked out of you is a unsettling feeling to have. I thought Steve was going to have a heart attack when they couldn't give me anything. Being since he almost lost me a year and a half before that. Not alot of people talk about this who have done this. I'm working on a page or a post about being an egg donor. So check back thanks again for reading what I'm ramblimg on about.

Wednesday, September 28

Abortion/A woman's right

Hi Mommy,

I'm your baby. You don't know me yet, I'm only a few weeks old. You're going to find out about me soon, though. I promise. Let me tell you some things about me. My name is John, and I've got beautiful brown eyes & black hair. Well, I don't have it yet, but I will when I'm born. I'm going to be your only child, and you will call me your one & only. I'm going to grow up without a daddy m...ostly, but we have each other. We will help each other, & love each other. I want to be a doctor when I grow up.

You found out about me today, Mommy! You were so excited, you couldn't wait to tell everyone. All you could do all day was smile, & life was perfect. You have a beautiful smile, Mommy. It will be the first face I will see in my life, & it will be the best thing I will see in my life. I know it already. Today was the day you told Daddy. You were so excited to tell him about me! He wasn't happy, Mommy. He kind of got angry. I don't think that you noticed, but he did. He started to talk about something called wedlock, & money, bills & stuff. I don't think I understand yet. You were still happy, though. So it was okay. Then he did something scary, Mommy. He hit you. I could feel you fall backward, & your hands flying up to protect me. I was okay... but I was very sad for you. You were crying then, Mommy. That's a sound I don't like. It doesn't make me feel good. It made me cry, too. He said sorry after, & he hugged you again. You forgave him Mommy, but I'm not sure if I do. It wasn't right. You say he loves you... why would he hurt you? I don't like it, Mommy.

Finally, you can see me! Your stomach is a little bit bigger, & you're so proud of me! You went out with your mommy to buy new clothes, and you were so so so happy. You sing to me, too. You have the most beautiful voice in the whole wide world. When you sing is when I'm happiest. You talk to me, & I feel safe. So safe. You just wait & see, Mommy. When I am born I will be perfect just for you. I will make you proud, and I will love you with all of my heart.

I can move my hands & feet now, Mommy. I do it because you put your hands on your belly to feel me, and I giggle. You giggle, too. I love you, Mommy.

Daddy came to see you today, Mommy. I got really scared. He was acting funny & he wasn't talking right. He said he didn't want you. I don't know why, but that's what he said. He hit you again. I got angry, Mommy. When I grow up I promise I won't let you get hurt! I promise to protect you. Daddy is bad. I don't care if you think that he is a good person, I think he's bad. But he hit you, and he said he didn't want us. He doesn't like me. Why doesn't he like me, Mommy?

You didn't talk to me tonight, Mommy. Is everything okay?

It's been three days since you saw Daddy. You haven't talked to me or touched me or anything since that. Don't you still love me, Mommy? I still love you. I think you feel sad. The only time I feel you is when you sleep. You sleep funny, kind of curled up on your side. You hug me with your arms, & I feel safe & warm again. Why don't you do that when you're awake, any more?

I'm 21 weeks old today, Mommy. Aren't you proud of me? We're going somewhere today, and it's somewhere new. I'm excited. It looks like a hospital, too. I want to be a doctor when I grow up, Mommy. Did I tell you that? I hope you're as excited as I am. I can't wait.

Mommy, I'm getting scared. Your heart is still beating, but I don't know what you are thinking. The doctor is talking to you. I think something's going to happen soon. I'm really, really, really scared, Mommy. Please tell me you love me. Then I will feel safe again. I love you!

Mommy, what are they doing to me!? It hurts! Please make them stop! It feels bad! Please, Mommy, please, please help me! Make them stop!

Don't worry Mommy, I'm safe. I'm in heaven with the angels now. They told me what you did, & they said it's called an abortion.
Why, Mommy? Why did you do it? Don't you love me any more? Why did you get rid of me? I'm really, really, really sorry if I did something wrong, Mommy. I love you, Mommy! I love you with all of my heart. Why don't you love me? What did I do to deserve what they did to me? I want to live, Mommy! Please! It really, really hurts to see you not care about me, & not talk to me. Didn't I love you enough? Please say you will keep me, Mommy! I want to live smile & watch the clouds & see your face & grow up & be a doctor. I don't want to be here, I want you to love me again! I'm really, really, really sorry if I did something wrong. I love you!
I love you, Mommy.
Every abortion is just
One more heart that was stopped.
Two more eyes that will never see.
Two more hands that will never touch.
Two more legs that will never run.
One more mouth that will never speak.

I came across this yesterday first I would like to say this is a very sad letter.  I'm not for or against abortion. I say this because I believe in a woman's right to chose if she wants to have a baby or not. It's her body she goes though all the changes for nine months. She has to deal with the mental issues there may be in whatever her case is. I'm not saying this should be a form of birth control no never. There should be a limit to one abortion in the extreme case of rape, incest or if someway she can't carry it due to her health. I know pro-life people would think otherwise. I hate to bust their bubble all women can't deal with those issues with help or without it. Yes, the woman could give the baby up to a couple who wants a baby. Yes, I agree to that also but if you were to put yourself in another woman's shoes you may not be able to stay pro-life. The pain of going though a rape is very unbearable for some then having to make a choice about the life that is growing inside of you. I know what I went though being pregnant I know all my thoughts that ran though my head. I'm thankful that the father of my two boys was able to step up and be a man. I had a very good support system from him who later asked for my hand in marriage. Being married for seven years to the father of my children has been the best decision I have ever made. I'm sad to say a lot of women don’t have the man to help nor the support system they need from family and friends. You don't need a man to raise a child I know plenty of single mothers who have done a great job with their children. It all comes down to the woman to be strong and independent.  As for the letter above Domestic Violence is something most people don't understand. This letter could have been a story on the news of the father killing the baby and mother. In fact I am friends with a lady who was abusive by her husband for many years. The day that was suppose to be a happy day to bring a child in the world turned out to be her worst nightmare. He didn't let her go to the hospital right away he decide to bet her up. She got sick while she was in labor. As she was hanging over the toilet her husband was kicking her in the belly and tried to drown her in the toilet. When he allowed her to go to the hospital between the nurses coming in and out he was punching her in the belly and chest. His excuse was that he didn't want another man looking at her private parts. I asked her why she didn't say something to the doctor while she was there. Turned out the husband never left her side she never got the chance to. I think child abuse cases have a lot to due to the fact that a lot of women where not able to get an abortion. If you were a victim of incest or rape can you imagine all the hate that can build up inside a person only to have them let it out on those poor innocent children? I think pro-life people need to back off and let the person chose the woman. I give credit to the women who can overcome what happen to them to be able to raise a happy child. Sadly there is not that many around. Abortion should be handle case by case. Yes, it is very sad to end a life GOD gave you but in some cases what do you think is the best for the lady above and my friend. Keep in mind a little pink piece of paper doesn't do much for a woman who is running for her life. In most cases if it goes to court the father gets the kids while the judge sits up on chair and says JUST BECAUSE HE IS MEAN TO YOU DOESN'T MEAN HE WILL BE MEAN TO THE CHILDREN. They are always wrong!!!! A man that hits never changes never cares about what he has done. Let's not forget the pregnant women murder. Their last breath is taken by a boyfriend or husband look it up.

Picture of the year

A picture began circulating in November. It should be "The Picture of the Year,"... or perhaps, "Picture of the Decade." It won't be. In fact, unless you obtained a copy of the U.S. paper which published it, you probably would never have seen it.

The picture is that of a 21-week-old unborn baby named Samuel Alexander Armas, who is being operated on by surgeon named Joseph Bruner. The baby was diagnosed with spina bifida and would not survive if removed from his mother's womb. Little Samuel's mother, Julie Armas, is an obstetrics nurse in Atlanta. She knew of Dr. Bruner's remarkable surgical procedure. Practicing at Vanderbilt University Medical Center in Nashville, he performs these special operations while the baby is still in the womb.

During the procedure, the doctor removes the uterus via C-section and makes a small incision to operate on the baby. As Dr. Bruner completed the surgery on Samuel, the little guy reached his tiny, but fully developed hand through the incision and firmly grasped the surgeon's finger. Dr. Bruner was reported as saying that when his finger was grasped, it was the most emotional moment of his life, and that for an instant during the procedure he was just frozen, totally immobile.

The photograph captures this amazing event with perfect clarity. The editors titled the picture, "Hand of Hope." The text explaining the picture begins, "The tiny hand of 21-week-old fetus Samuel Alexander Armas emerges from the mother's uterus to grasp the finger of Dr. Joseph Bruner as if thanking the doctor for the gift of life."

Little Samuel's mother said they "wept for days" when they saw the picture. She said, "The photo reminds us pregnancy isn't about disability or an illness, it's about a little person" Samuel was born in perfect health, the operation 100 percent successful. Now see the actual picture, and it is awesome...incredible....and hey, pass it on! The world needs to see this one!
I open my Fb page today to find this on my wall. I think this picture is amazing to see. It's the baby way of saying thank's doc for helping me.

Tuesday, June 7

Jilted ex-boyfriend puts up abortion billboard

I read this story on yahoo which has been a very heated debate on the radio and the news. I’m not for or against abortion I do however think it should always be the woman right to choose.  It’s not the man who has to go through nine months to carry a child around. The man doesn’t have to worry about how to rearrange plans for work. There are a lot of emotional and physical things that happens to a woman when she is pregnant.  It takes two to tango. I do believe a father should take care of the child if it is his but I guess that can be argued to. How can a man be held responsible for the child when they are born and not before. I’m torn over this subject as I talk to Steve.  I believe there should be a limit on abortion at one. You get one chance to make this unbelievable choice that will change your life forever. A woman can’t use this as a form of birth control that is not right at all. In that case she should be focused to tie her tubes. There are many reasons a woman may choose to have an abortion such as rape. I know it’s not the child’s fault and many will fight the fact that if god didn’t want you have a baby he wouldn’t choose you. It sucks that children can’t choose their own parents. It’s also sad that anyone can have a child. I think that if more people where open minded about this issue instead one being one sided things would change. This guy however went too far.  I’m glad Steve stood by me both times we got pregnant with our kids.  Even though being pregnant with my first son a lot of issues arise that I wasn’t expecting. I’m ashamed to say that it did cross my mind. I’m glad with my husband by my side I was able to make the right choice. I wouldn’t change it. I’m grateful I was able to make that choice for myself and not focused into something like that.  Life is really only what you make it. You really need a good support system when a child is involved.


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