Tuesday, October 29
Sunday, October 27
Do you feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
Does your partner:
If you have answered YES or some to most of these it's time to get out. REMEMBER it's Not your Fault. You can't control what someone else does. You can't change them no matter how hard you try. No matter how hard you try to convince yourself you are the one who will get though to him or her. It won't change they won't change. There is help Please call the National Domestic Violence hot line.
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Friday, October 25
List of ways to help for domestic violence awareness month.
1. Host a clothing-swap fund-raiser, where you pass a hat to raise funds for domestic violence shelters. Identify a needy shelter in your area and register your swap (or find one near you) at swapforgood.org. San Francisco pals Brianna Cayo Cotter, 29, and Orli Cotel, 31, (pictured) launched Swap for Good in April with no money (friends helped design the site). Within months, the nonprofit had raised $2,800. Now the swaps are catching on nationwide.
2. Search using goodsearch.com. Type in "National Domestic Violence Hotline," then surf the Internet as you normally would. The site's browser is powered by Yahoo; every time you search, GoodSearch will donate about a cent to NDVH. With millions of us clicking, that's big money!
3.Shop on October 17 at Macy's or on macys.com. If you buy a "Shop for a Cause" ticket, your $5 will go to the Family Violence Prevention Fund RESPECT! campaign, and you'll save 10 to 20 percent on most purchases, plus 25 percent on one in-store item.
4. Join Liz Claiborne Inc.'s Love Is Not Abuse Coalition at loveisnotabuse.com, to help end teen dating abuse. As a member, you'll learn how to work with educators and legislators to get a dating-abuse education curriculum into schools.
5. Recycle old cell phones, laptops, and other electronics by sending them to Recycle for Domestic Violence (recyclefordomesticviolence.com), and they'll donate to the domestic violence charity of your choice.
6. Text HOTLINE to 85944 to instantly donate $5 to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, which connects those in crisis to local shelters and resources.
7. Donate your clunker car by visiting ncadv.org/takeaction/donateacar.php and all proceeds will benefit the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, which supports programs such as safe houses, educational initiatives, and policy development.
8. Accessorize with "Empowerment" tees and jewelry at avon.com. The proceeds will go to the Avon Foundation to end violence against women.
9. Tune in to talk radio on December 8, when hosts nationwide will talk to celebs, advocates, and survivors about how to end the cycle of abuse . It's all part of the seventh annual It's Time to Talk Day.
10. Reach out to a friend who you suspect might be in an abusive relationship. "Gently express your concern and ask questions about her situation, and listen without judgment," suggests Jane Randel, the director of the Love Is Not Abuse campaign. "If she shares evidence of abuse, emphasize that whenever she wants help, you'll be there." Encourage her to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE.
A little help can go a long way. Don't forget to turn Facebook purple for the rest of October.
Sunday, October 20
It's very important to keep a paper trail, pictures and any voice mail of the abuse. It is easier to help prove if you go to court. In any case you should seek protection from the police. A lot of officers both men and women may not believe you. Please don't give up that is why a paper trail is very important to have. I have a lot of people who follow my blog from Michigan. Here is what you can do. Please don't stay silent.
Remember to keep the information somewhere where your abusers won't find it.
Maybe at a trusted friends house who will help you leave for good. Be safe!!
Domestic Violence Laws in Michigan Viewing 3 of 9 Spouses or romantic partners committing violence on each other or on any children in the home is a serious crime that can involve jail time. Every state has its own laws regarding domestic violence. Michigan has specific laws designed to curtail and punish acts of domestic violence in the state. Definitions Michigan law defines a domestic relationship as one in which two people are either spouses or former spouses, in a dating relationship or former dating relationship, have children in common, or are current or former residents of the same household. If such a relationship exists, the laws concerning domestic violence apply to a violent incident. Violence can take the form of physical, sexual or emotional/verbal abuse. If a man threatens to kill his girlfriend, for example, domestic abuse laws would apply even if he made no physical contact with the woman. Child Custody Michigan law allows Michigan social services to take immediate control of any children in the home during a domestic violence investigation they have been abandoned or the agency considers them in danger. Michigan courts can also decline to take jurisdiction over a child regarding a domestic violence dispute if the state is deemed "an inconvenient forum" for the hearing. If a visiting family from Illinois had a domestic violence dispute while driving through Michigan, for example, the state would request Illinois to take jurisdiction. The state also can take legal custody of children in a domestic case if it has concern that one of the involved parties will leave the state with them. Restraining Orders Michigan refers to restraining orders as "domestic relationship personal protection orders." The domestic relationship PPO allows a judge to order the abuser to stay away from the victim and to stop all harassing or threatening activities. It also can give the victim temporary, sole custody of any children until a court can examine the case in greater detail. Authorities frequently issue a temporary stay-away order against an alleged abuser immediately following a domestic abuse incident to allow a "cooling-off" period for both parties. An attorney or a police officer can help direct you in filing for a more permanent restraining order or you can request assistance from an advocacy group such as the Michigan Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence. Additional Statutes Michigan has a five-year statute of limitations on domestic violence charges on both a criminal and a civil level. A woman abused by her significant other has five years to file a criminal complaint or a lawsuit seeking compensation for damages. Local police departments must report domestic violence statistics in their districts to the state police department so the state can keep accurate records of domestic violence incidents.
Monday, October 14
Sunday, October 13
No matter what he says you are Beautiful.
No matter how many times he hit you, you can still get up.
It's the life you are in now but you don't have to stay.
No matter what he says You can find someone to love you the RIGHT way!
Your heart hurts in a way you never thought it could.
He will never stop until you are dead.
It is a chance you will have to take I know it may seem unfair.
It's only one step towards the door don't walk RUN!
Don't ever look back that life is not for you.
Your heart beats as you run.
Your mind is racing in a million directions.
The things you left behind are just that THINGS.
You have your LIFE now move forward.
Don't look back that Life was not meant for you!
Stop the Cycle End Domestic Violence today!
Keys to car, house, work
Important papers for you and your children
Social security cards
School and medical records
Bankbooks, credit cards
Passports, green cards, work permits
Mortgage payment book, unpaid bills
PPO, divorce papers, custody orders
Pictures, jewelry, things that mean a lot to you
Items for your children (toys, blankets, etc.)
Everyday someone is getting abuse someone is getting beat someone is running away to stay alive. Is it you? There is Help if you want it. Please consider these facts. Did you know every 9 seconds a woman is abused?
Those who leave are 75% at risk of being killed.
Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.
More than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends everyday in the US.
Men who as children witnessed their parents’ domestic violence were twice as likely to abuse their own wives than sons of nonviolent parents.
The same goes for little girls who witness their mother being abuse will think and stay because it will be normal to them.
SPEAK UP IT'S NOT NORMAL IT'S NOT LOVE!
Speak up it's wrong Please end the Abuse today if not for you for your children. Let your children grow up knowing Love doesn't hurt!
There are a lot of risk factors in leaving I know I have been there I have been in your shoes. Don't let the fear take over you deserve much more. No matter who you are someone cares Please call for help
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
Saturday, October 12
Let's talk about a book shelf for my Popsicle room. I tried the standard book shelf but like his big brother he enjoys climbing on things that are not suppose to be used as a rock wall. This also came from Pinterest. A shelf made out of rain gutter's.
First you have to know where you want them measure them mind are about 3 feet long.
Tuesday, October 8
If you are a mom I bet you have many of these same moments where it's hard to get out of your head. It's times you think to yourself what would my life be if I didn't have these moments in time. This morning I gave my kids their vitamins for the day like I always do. I gave Justin his first as the same time he was saying "Thank You."
I was saying "Here Chris."
Justin says"What did I do to you?"
I reply "What?"
Justin "You just said who cares,why?"
I start laughing "Why would I say that?"
"That's what I thought you must be having a bad day. You never say that to me." Justin says with a confused look on his face.
I always tell my kids to mind their manners so when Justin thought I said "Who cares." He probably thought the one time I say thank you before she says something and this is what I get. I'm laughing my butt off right now writing this. It was too funny all taking place before school.
In between looking for shoes, homework clothes,milk on the floor. Cereal in the freezer for whatever reason. The marbles I keep almost breaking my neck on not to mind the cat freaking me out. She likes to jump out of nowhere.
Later today Christopher and I took a break from doing his studies we are working on learning the parts of a skeleton right now. I laid on the floor when the cat jumped up on me purring.
Christopher said "She is vibrating."
"She is purring!" I told him
Another moment where I couldn't stop laughing
He says "Well unplug her mommy!"
Like where do they come up with this stuff? I swear I laugh more since I became a mom then I ever did before. Christopher and Justin have a full fledge conversation. It's the cutest thing to hear my little one ask his big brother how his day was and then my oldest tells him.
Being a mommy is really hard at times I know I'm a mom. Is the most rewarding experience to become a parent to see how much you have influenced your children. You watch the way what you say and do shapes them. It's funny how it's all rolled into one. They are their own person yet there is a little bit of you and their daddy it's amazing! My son Justin is an amazing athlete! I am constantly getting compliments on how natural he is at soccer and basketball just about any sport he has ever done it makes us as parents very proud of him. My husband just bought our little one for his 3rd birthday a tablet now he wants to buy Justin a cell phone. I don't know about you but I'm not sure about a phone for my son but I know it's needed. Times have changed since I was 10. Christopher knows how to use my phone better than I know how to use my phone. He can take pictures he can call people and he walked in the room having a conversation with somebody. I'm like who are you talking to he tell me he knows how to hang up he knows how to use my bluetooth it is so funny! My whole world revolves around my children. I love these crazy intense even the attitude justin has inquired lately I love all these moments. My children are growing up to be incredible people who will soon be young adults. It must mean that my husband and I are doing a great job. I'm sure all the parents that are reading this you are doing a great job too. Just hold on a little tantrum will pass they only hold your hand for a short time make sure you're there to create a new moment everyday. Make time for family fun day as today we're playing uno. Remember to always have fun. Being a parent is a journey! Thanks for reading have a blessed day.
The purple ribbon has become a unifying symbol of courage, survival, honor and dedication to ending domestic violence.
Though the purple ribbon’s origins are hard to pinpoint, families and friends have adopted it as a symbol of people who lost their lives at the hands of someone they once loved and trusted.
Purple ribbons are...
They demonstrate support of victims and advocates, and they convey an important message:
Sunday, October 6
Saturday, October 5
Domestic violence touches every person in our community and society as a whole; and violates a person’s dignity, safety, and basic human rights. It's wrong anyway you cut it. Speak up don't stay in silence. I have been working on opening up a nonprofit organization to help victims of Domestic Violence. I started last year but have had a few dozen bumps in the road. It is harder then I originally thought it would be. I took a break from all the chaos a few months ago to breathe. It's hard fighting for something to be heard and seen when people have their eyes closed. Everyone can become trap in this situation at any given time. It doesn't matter if you are rich,poor, white, or black. It happens to the best of us. It's knowing when enough is enough the first time someone hits you or calls you out of your name. Please know the signs if you think what is happening is wrong it is please get help to leave.
National Domestic Violence Hotline at
Tuesday, October 1
One Single tablespoon does a whole load of wash!
Here is an amazingly simple Do It Yourself detergent that doesn't leave any residue on clothing, gets nearly every stain known to man out the first time around and smells clean and fresh- oh and did I mention that it costs about $1.76 for 128 loads of laundry?
Since our teen son started working at a fast food restaurant, this has become our most-loved detergent recipe. His clothing was so saturated with heavy french fry and onion ring grease scent that even washing them in TIDE didn't take out the horrendous smell. I whipped up a half gallon of this detergent and washed his clothes while he was at school- he thought I'd gotten a new shirt from his boss at work! First time EVER that ALL of the smell finally came out of his clothes, without further à deux - here is my Super Laundry Sauce recipe!
Safe for HE machines.
~ This makes 1/2 Gallon of concentrate ~
~ Btw, that's a full 128 loads of laundry!! ~
1 bar Fels Naphtha (Yes, the ENTIRE Bar!)
1 cup 20 Mule Team Borax
1 cup Arm & Hammer Washing Soda (NOT BAKING SODA!!)
4 cups of hot water
Another Pinterest Craft to see if I can do it.
I think I might try this I have no purpose to I just like to try new things since I have been using the Tide pods for two years now. I never switch from liquid detergent my hubby brought them on sale enough for six months worth. I couldn't believe he brought so many at once but not uncommon when he goes to the store. I remember Justin's face he comes in the front door and says" Dad did it again he went crazy shopping." I just laugh because he had to do a load of laundry jut to see how it worked. I will keep you updated on if it works out.