Love

Have you been lucky enough to be loved by someone? Is it something you see or feel? I know what love is not. It’s not a black eye you gave me  on our one month anniversary. Being called something besides my name is not love. My three concussions were not another way to say I adore you. Beating my dog to death was not part of my love story. Pushing me out of your second story window wasn’t my dream come true.  The first time you slap me should have been the first and the last. You said you were sorry each time with flowers sealed with a kiss. It hurt to kiss you back due to my fat over sized lip you gave me for talking to my guy friend. I guess that’s why you broke my hand in three places along with the second black eye I now have. Maybe this is love maybe this is what I get for not listening to you. I guess that is why you shot me now I rest in a hospital bed.  THIS IS NOT LOVE! THIS IS DOMESTIC ABUSE I’m 19 years old what does this world have to offer me if I leave you? I guess nothing I pasted away last night my name is Kate now I will never know what real love feels like.

http://www.domesticviolence.org/
If you or someone you know is being hurt please call National Domestic Violence Hotline -1-800-799-SAFE (7233).


Cases of Domestic Violence

A Lexington County jury has convicted a Gilbert man of criminal domestic violence and kidnapping for assaulting and binding his live-in girlfriend in late 2011. ( South Carolina)
http://www.thestate.com/2012/10/25/2494975/gilbert-man-sentenced-in-domestic.html

Authorities identified the suspected gunman as Floyd Palmer, a 52-year-old former facilities maintenance employee at the church. About 20 people were at the church when Palmer allegedly opened fire, killing the 39-year-old volunteer, and quickly left the scene, according to The Associated Press. (Georgia)
http://abcnews.go.com/US/crefro-dollar-employee-sought-man-shot-death-megachurch/story?id=17554013

Radcliffe Haughton, 45, bought a handgun just two days after his beleaguered wife obtained a restraining order against him. He used that weapon to kill her and two other women Sunday at the spa where she worked, before fatally shooting himself.(MILWAUKEE)
http://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory/suspected-gunmans-wife-dead-wis-spa-17536017

Drayton is charged with felony assault and misdemeanor domestic battery. He could face up to six years in prison if convicted of the assault charge and six months in jail on the domestic battery charge.(Las Vegas)
http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/wireStory/flavor-flav-fight-vegas-domestic-abuse-charges-17535521





Domestic Violence PSA Urges Women to Speak Up, Not Cover Up


Hugh Hefner’s son, Marston Hefner, pleaded no contest to a misdemeanor domestic violence charge for an incident involving his girlfriend, Claire Sinclair, the 2011 Playmate of the Year.
http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/entertainment/2012/03/hugh-hefners-son-pleads-in-domestic-violence-case/

I could go on and on about the cases from October. It's very sad that not more people are behind putting a stop to this. Please help me take a small step go to end the cycle please help. To all of my friends I'm looking to help put a stop to Domestic Violence. I would like to share your story on my blog if you are willing to write me. Please inbox me with your story you don't have to put your real name. If more people knew if you are willing to talk you are taking a huge stand up to help put a stop to this crime that happens daily.

Read https://www.facebook.com/PoliceDomesticViolencemore here: http://www.thestate.com/2012/10/25/2494975/gilbert-man-sentenced-in-domestic.html#storylink=cpy

Fire Prince - Don't Feel Like Heaven Anymore

Please take your stand TODAY. Please help to end it today tomorrow is to late.
The comments on You Tube made me sick how this one person can think it's all the woman's fault. It's not any one's fault but the person making the choice to hit someone. It's not just about bullying your wife or husband it's all about power and control. The abuser is always in control. That's how they like it. These images in the video above shows that. It's hard for me to watch it because all the memories of being abuse comes back when I was in high school. I do not wish this on anyone. I mean that if you are in this situation please call someone to help. Please don't stay they will do it again and again.
Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE Please tell someone if you need to talk don't feel ashamed. You are worth it. This is your life please stand up for it.
Please take your stand TODAY. Please help to end it today tomorrow is to late!

Good books to read

 I enjoy reading and thought I would share my list with you so far. All of these books can be found on amazon.com  I also left a link to my pinterest page of books too. Have fun reading or crying. Some of these books tore me up inside most deal with Domestic Violence.

http://pinterest.com/aquariummomma/books-worth-reading/



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Turn Facebook Purple

Hello, I have something to ask of everyone out there. I started a cause with facebook to turn it purple for the month of October to Stop the cycle of Domestic Violence.https://www.causes.com/actions/1692135
 I believe by talking about it many more people will seek help or at least know that are worth the effort. No one deserves to be hit for any reason. Please take a stand with me this month and everyday after to be an ear to someone who needs you to listen. Please don't judge them even if you can't understand what they are going through. Instead of telling them what they are doing wrong help them take the step to the phone to call a local shelter to help. Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE

 Please don't let this be an image a child you love sees daily. The sounds of screams coming from the bedroom will last a lifetime in the mind of a child. Please help stop them from becoming an abuser as well. The bruises you see above will fade but the emotional pain will still be deep in your heart. I have left some links at the bottom please help today. Most of all LISTEN you may be a woman's only hope.

http://www.ncadv.org/

http://www.thehotline.org/get-educated/what-is-domestic-violence/

Famous People

Famous people who have been the victim of Domestic Violence

1. Diane lane
2. Bill Clinton
3. Halle Berry
4.  Madonna
5. Mariah Carey
6.  Rihanna      
7. Bobby Brown and Whitney Houston
8. Pamela Anderson
9.  Phil Hartman
10. Tina Turner Tina’s violent marriage with Ike Turner is well known, largely thanks to the film based on her life, What’s Love Got to Do with It. In the film the singer suffered severe beatings, was raped and had cigarettes stubbed out on her body. Her husband Ike is portrayed as a violent, controlling sociopath, and when Tina’s autobiography was published Ike actually admitted that the book was largely accurate. The pair was married for 16 years before Tina had the courage to leave. Ike is now dead.

http://www.weinbergerlawgroup.com/blog/newjersey-child-parenting-issues/10-celebrities-who-were-victims-of-domestic-violence/

11. Paris Hilton
12.  Geno Hayes
13.  Humphrey Bogart
14. Chuck Finley

15. Abraham Lincoln

16. Christina Aguilera

Statistics show that over 3 million children witness domestic violence in their homes each year, and those who see and hear domestic violence suffer physically and emotionally. Domestic violence and celebrities is so dangerously out of control, but it is easy to understand why the media focuses on the celeb rather than the issue of violence or the innocent children these celebrities are hurting. Gossip and ratings.

 It doesn’t matter if you are rich, poor, white, black famous or the average Joe blow off the street. This hits homes everywhere in the world. All these people listed above seen it or had a family member who was a victim of Domestic Violence. What you see at home becomes a little part of you. It shapes who you are in a way. Some people have control over what and who they become in life. Other’s let it consume them in the deepest darkest way possible. As a survivor of Domestic Violence from a past relationship it is not easy to get out. The person who is hurting you wants control over you. They feed off of your guilt, pain and anger. They have control and power because you let them. What does love have to do with it? Nothing then again speaking from experience it has a lot to do with it. You didn’t buy the right food. Walked in the house to loud maybe you were late coming home from work. You looked the wrong way. It’s always something in the day and night of a man or woman being abused by a loved one. It’s always your fault you made them do something. This is not right it’s not your fault they are an evil person to the core. It’s not your fault they took a path to be mean to another person. It’s not your fault that they hit you! They will never change. Please speak up if you know someone who is getting abuse.  Please don’t sit there and watch your so called friend put his hands on a woman. Don’t sit in your apartment and listen to your neighborhood beg her husband not to hit her. Don’t stand there on the street when you see a woman hit a man. It’s not right. DO SOMETHING SPEAK UP AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE? Only you can make that choice to let it go on. Only you can help stop it. Please listen to someone who makes that choice you are the person they are going to tell. Don't judge them. Don't make them feel any worst then they already do. Please help listen show them the way to be safe.

Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE

Wristbands

http://www.shanrene.com/page/001/CTGY/domestic-violence-bracelets

Domestic Violence Wristbands This is a purple silicone domestic violence awareness bracelet. It has the words Hope, Faith, Courage, and Strength. Awareness ribbons sit between each word. The wristband comes in two sizes: Standard 8-1/4" and Small 7". For every domestic violence wristband bracelet sold, Shanrene, Inc. donates $.25 to violence prevention foundations. Your purchase of this purple silicone domestic violence wristband will benefit charity! Code: domestic-violence-wristbands Buy yours today it's something small that you can do to support this cause. I knew a girl in high school that went through this. Her boyfriend kidnap her and beat her to almost an inch of her life. It's a shame no one help her out because they didn't want to get involved. This is your business take a stand don't sit by and listen to this horrible crime happen.    I just put my order in for this just $28.00.  I love it. Please help Stop Domestic Violence! Please be the voice they can't be. Please help if you are in trouble please tell someone. Keep telling someone until they listen. Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE (7233)

Price: $1.99 As Low As $1.29

Signs of Abuse and Abusive Relationships

SIGNS THAT YOU’RE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
Your Inner Thoughts and Feelings	Your Partner’s Belittling Behavior
Do you: feel afraid of your partner much of the time?	Does your partner: humiliate or yell at you?
avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?	criticize you and put you down?
feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?	treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?	ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?	blame you for their own abusive behavior?
feel emotionally numb or helpless?	see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
Your Partner’s Violent Behavior or Threats	Your Partner’s Controlling Behavior
Does your partner: have a bad and unpredictable temper?	Does your partner: act excessively jealous and possessive?
hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?	control where you go or what you do?
threaten to take your children away or harm them?	keep you from seeing your friends or family?
threaten to commit suicide if you leave?	limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
force you to have sex?	limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
destroy your belongings?	constantly check up on you?

If you have answered yes to any of these question you are in need of help. Please don't be afraid to ask for help. Please stand up for yourself. You are worth it in every way.

ttp://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm

In October 1987

Became the first Domestic Violence Awareness Month that was observed. That same year the first national toll-free hot line was begun. 1−800−799−SAFE(7233) or TTY 1−800−787−3224.
http://www.thehotline.org/



This shirt is $31.00  http://shop.cafepress.ca/domestic-violence



This hat is about $21.00
 Please take a look at this site and support this cause. I feel really Strong about this cause. There are  a lot of women who should wear this hat but won't in fear the world will see her different. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month please learn the facts to stop the cycle. Please be an ear to someone who needs your help.

http://lifeisonlywhatyoumakeit.blogspot.com/p/please-help-stop-domestic-violence.html



http://shop.cafepress.ca/domestic-violence

A painful past

Over the weekend I have had a few comments about my page on Domestic Violence which brought me back to a painful past I once had. I don't talk about it a lot because it still has a huge affect on me. My high school boyfriend beat and rape me more times then I can count. This is the first time I have wrote about it. Once I separate my emotions from it then I have no problem talking about what happen. My hubby told me once that it was like I'm a totally different person when I do that. I would have to agree with him on that. My hubby is a huge part of why I left my high school boyfriend. When I met him it was in the middle of a huge fight my boyfriend and I were having. At that time he didn't hit me he walked away from me. My soon to be hubby Steve seen me in his words couldn't resist the urge to walk over to me. I remember his words like it was yesterday."It's not your fault he is an ass, you are a wonderful person inside and out." Then he walked away not knowing him he found me again. I seen Steve a number of times after that but it wasn't until I graduated from high school that a real friendship emerge with this wonderful man that I knew nothing about. Yes, that is how my oldest son became a start of what is now my life. It's funny to think about it now because I didn't even know his name until a month before our first date which is this Friday it will be seven years with Steve. Steve is a very easy person to talk to without being judge on what I did in my past. However as we became friends I began to understand who he was. It seem that we were not as different as I once thought.

I have accomplish a lot in my life. Letting go of my past being one. My past doesn't make me who I am it is who I once was. With God by my side he sent Steve to me in that place in time to save me. Steve understood what I went though coming from a similar past as mind. He knew what it was like not to be able to turn to someone for help. I guess putting two lost souls together made a life worth living. I said I do six month later to Steve after our son turned two. He came back from over seas only to ask me to be his wife. It was hard to get to know the man in uniform again. So much time had past we were again at the beginning which made everything new for our Journey. I am very grateful I have a chance to help others with my story. I owe my happiness to my hubby. He is my superman my rock that makes me strong. I love you Steve!
Without you I could not stand. We have made us work because we wanted to.

Break The Cycle

Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) evolved from the "Day of Unity" in October 1981 conceived by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. The intent was to connect advocates across the nation who were working to end violence against women and their children. The Day of Unity soon became an entire week devoted to a range of activities conducted at the local, state, and national levels.

http://dvam.vawnet.org/about/index.php



Purple ribbons are...

■made into pins and passed out at local events

■embroidered on t-shirts, hats and bags

■tied to the antennae of police cars

■hung on doors

■wrapped around trees

■draped over fences at murder scenes

In addition to the demonstration of support for victims and advocates, the display of purple ribbons throughout a community conveys a powerful message that there's no place for domestic violence in the homes.

In addition to the demonstration of support for victims and advocates, the display of purple ribbons throughout a community conveys a powerful message that there's no place for domestic violence in the homes.

The activities conducted were as varied and diverse as the program sponsors but had common themes: mourning those who have died because of domestic violence, celebrating those who have survived, and connecting those who work to end violence.

In October 1987, the first Domestic Violence Awareness Month was observed. That same year marks the initiation of the first national domestic violence toll-free hotline. In 1989 the U.S. Congress passed Public Law 101-112 designating October of that year as National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Such legislation has passed every year since with NCADV providing key leadership in this effort. Each year, the Day of Unity is celebrated the first Monday of Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

-- Adapted from the 1996 Domestic Violence Awareness Month Resource Manual of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.





Read the full proclamation by President Obama by accessing the link here:
http://www.whitehouse.gov/the-press-office/2010/10/01/presidential-proclamation-national-domestic-violence-awareness-month

SUPPORT  THIS OCTOBER BY WEARING PURPLE

Take a look at these links

http://www.fundraisingforacause.com/

http://www.purpleribbonproject.com/

http://www.bumperstickermagnet.com/

I came across this on yahoo I don't know who it's by but this is written very beautiful.

Domestic violence

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/beauty/glee-star-latest-fashion-victim-in-offensive-shoot-black-and-blue-is-not-the-new-black-2539137/

This is not funny and it's not a joke. I can't believe they seem to think so.Many women and men go though this rich, poor,black,and white. Not enough is done to keep this from happening today. The laws need to change.